Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I was abused by my uncle when I was a child, my husband was aware of this when we got married. We dated for 3.5 years before we got married and we've been married for 5 years. He informed me a couple of months back that when he was between the ages of 12-14 that he fondled his 4 or 5 yr old cousin that was living with them. His parents found out because his cousin told. They addressed it with him. He said he laid awake many a night wanting to tell me about it over the years but because his cousin had turned out to molest a 3 year old when he was 12 (this infuriated me the way the family handled it) my husband didn't know how to approach me with this. I'm not sure what makes me more angry the fact that he did it or the fact that he kept it from me knowing what I had gone through. I don't know where to go with this or how to handle it...but it's been causing me more anxiety then what I wish I would.....
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
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Be Safe and Take Care of yourself!!
Realistically your husband has admitted that he has committed a criminal act to you and you keeping silent about it isn't going to help anybody, least of all you because not only do you carry around the trauma of your own abuse but also the abuse that your husband has caused another person and so the cycle continues.
Break the cycle girl...
I too would be pipped off.
if I were absolutely sure that this was a one time thing he did. Then I would consider what life has been like with him. As a guy I can tell you he may have been trying to protect himself, you and your marriage. It is equally posible that becuase he knows what you went thru that he felt quilty because he felt he was betraying you by not telling you. At any rate I don't know how much love is between you to but it is possible he told because he loves you.
I guess this may a case where the sum of the parts equal the whole. And if it was a one time thing it was probably experimentation at that age. Still not forgivable.
i agree he should have told you. i did that for my wife. I told her out of respect and to be sure she could handle it. as it turned out she had had extensive abuse in her life. So he was wrong for not teilling. But his intentions may have been in the right place.
On the other hand if the guy is jerk. then kick him in the butt.