Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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My husband raped me

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I Separated from my husband because he was getting abusive and becoming very jealous. He then followed me home one time and raped me saying i was married to him and i needed to help him. I thought he understand i don't freely give my self out because i was raped by my father and granfather every night for about 16yrs. Did he not care that i was screaming at him to stop? I feel like im not living because im too busy trying to survive. Does any one else feel like this? How do i turn around and say ok i forgive you even though you were my husband and you raped me. How do i forgive my dad and granfather for raping and making me fall pregant at 16yrs old and after losing it telling me that they wanted a other baby. Do pepole not know how hard it is to say its ok i forgive you even though it was my whole life up untill abut 6 months ago? I feel soo down at times and i have tried to end my life. I need help?
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you dont need to say "i forgive you" - untill you want to! You need to heal, and that includes the right to feel angry at your attackers.
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You don't have to forgive them just forget them I know it is hard I have managed to just randum every now and then vists from my past now
Being pregnant brought up my feelings again from being abused. I was scared that because of being pregnant people would think that what I said wasn't true. Even though it took me a very long time to let myself sleep with my partner
Don't forgive anyone for what they have done to you unless you are ready unless you want to!
Reen
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Forgiveness is over-rated. It's not necessary and you don't HAVE to. It's not about them and making them feel better, it's about you. Some people forgive and feel better. Others never forgive and do just as well. It's totally YOUR choice.
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what has happened to you is terrible...what your husband did to you is wrong...married or not it was rape....you need to heal, you need to love yourself and you need to allow yourself to feel hurt and betrayed...if your not in therapy i think that would be a great place to start...you dont have to forgive them....perhaps later you will be able to step back and forgive them but they never need to hear that from you....what they did is wrong....you did nothing wrong...this is not your fault....keep your chin up it will get better.
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