Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Living in FEAR!!!

deleted_user
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Since I was 6-7years old I lived in FEAR for many years...My 1st sexual molestation experience was a memorable an disgusting act.I was blackmaled by an older guy believing him that he had a bunch of lollies to give me an had this awesome game he was goin to tell me about.From there on then it all started from there...It was the worst pain I had ever felt in my entire life as a child an on top of that I was scared and had 2 types of FEARS which haunted me for a long time as a child.The 1st Fear was he threatened me if I told anyone about this he would kill my family!The 2nd Fear was if I had told my parents I knew they would give me a beating and I hated beatings myself.So I couldn't do anything.I hated this guy for many years for what he did because he took my virginity away from me.I have been going to counseling sessions for quite sometime now because of this,and I had learned that sexual molester was currently killed in a car crash.A sense of relief was felt over me after hearing that news.I am 34years old now an I have 2 beautiful children but I am curently single and I have had bad relationship with an ex-girlfriend due to other issues.I am just asking for those who have been sexually abused how long did it take Living in FEAR before you actualy opened up and talked to someone about it and what did you do?!My heart goes out to everyone
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hi there i dont think theres any set time when the fear barrier breaks, it can often happen when you least expect . ive broken my silence but do still live in fear due to various issues i still cant deal with.my counselors are great bu however there still ownly getting to things now with me an it chokes in the throat i found it helpful to write things down my counselor even let me give her what id wrote didnt read it when i was there wee tried when she seen me to talk it over she even aloud me to draw an felt this stupid at the time as im 31yr but remarkably it worked. the most import thing is dont let it take over your its already done more than that you take back control speak when your ready an beat these fears for you an no one else you will feel alot taller an remember your corageous an wonderful an deserve to be raid of these fears takecare
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sorry excuse my spelling errors
scared4k
scared4k
my daughter is 7 and she is talking about it in little steps. We try to keep it open for when she is ready. Talking really does help. Evven writing on this site helps.
deleted_user
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It has taken me 32 years to talk about it. Yeah it's difficult to get it out sometimes, but I know to continue to life live again appropriately that I have to face my biggest fears. The past memories really do suck, and I wish at times they would bugger off.I also know that to learn to try and live with it, that counseling and meds,speaking for myself now, are the only way of coping, and being able to get out of my black hole.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello friend!
I understand your fears.I had those to.Only I told my parents on my brother 3 separate times when I was different ages.2yrs ago my brother moved down here from Pa.It started again I was so afraid of everything.I stopped going and visiting my parents & leaving my house was out of the question.Then he messed up and tried to scare me through emails I flipped and the flood gates opened I had so many memories. I called the cops.Once I showed the police officer(and also my angel)the emails he said they werent threatening.I blurted it out.I didnt know he'd have to notify the authorities up in pa about my being molested.ANYWAY real long story short my family is behind me now,even my parent!.My dad said that he did believe me but thought it was only 1 time.HA try TEN LONG YEARS DAD! Anyway time will help you I promise. Im here if you want to talk Kathie
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have never lived in fear of my abusers,i have always had anger toward them especially the first one who took my virginity.I have never told anyone this site is the first i have said anything and what a hell of a relief it is.
Now that your perpretrators are dead you have nothing to fear,he cant harm you.You are free from the fear.Try never again to let anyone intimidate you.
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