Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
As most of you know I've been sick the past few days, therefore giving my a lot of time to think. (Sometimes that's not always a good thing though. LOL) Anyway, today I was thinking about how you hear from different people and on tv all the time about when a child is hurt by something, traumatic or not, the immediate response is: "Kids are resilient." Well, I have to ask. Since when?
I don't mean to offend anyone who disagrees with me but personally I don't believe that kids are not as resilient as everyone would like to think. Sure, if a kid falls down, skins their knee, you kiss the boo-boo, clean it up and put a band-aid over it. Two seconds later the kid's back up and running. Sure, now that right there is resilient.
But, when a child is abused, or put through a divorce or the death of a loved one, kids aren't resilient and I'm tired of hearing people say that.
"Little Jimmy was abused!"
"That's okay! He'll forget it and if he starts to remember it in a few years, we'll just tell him it was a bad dream!"
I guess this rant is stemming from a friend of my family's. They just found out that their 4 yr. old was abused and they decided to deal with it amongst themselves and are basically "letting it go for now." It wouldn't surprise me if they pull that "bad dream" thing.
Obviously, it bothered me more than I thougt it did. I'm worried about their little girl. She was hurt the same way I was and I 100% disagree with the way her parents are handling it. I'm so mad at them that I could spit nails.
I'm sorry to be so angry but I guess I just wanted to see if anyone else agrees with me.
I don't mean to offend anyone who disagrees with me but personally I don't believe that kids are not as resilient as everyone would like to think. Sure, if a kid falls down, skins their knee, you kiss the boo-boo, clean it up and put a band-aid over it. Two seconds later the kid's back up and running. Sure, now that right there is resilient.
But, when a child is abused, or put through a divorce or the death of a loved one, kids aren't resilient and I'm tired of hearing people say that.
"Little Jimmy was abused!"
"That's okay! He'll forget it and if he starts to remember it in a few years, we'll just tell him it was a bad dream!"
I guess this rant is stemming from a friend of my family's. They just found out that their 4 yr. old was abused and they decided to deal with it amongst themselves and are basically "letting it go for now." It wouldn't surprise me if they pull that "bad dream" thing.
Obviously, it bothered me more than I thougt it did. I'm worried about their little girl. She was hurt the same way I was and I 100% disagree with the way her parents are handling it. I'm so mad at them that I could spit nails.
I'm sorry to be so angry but I guess I just wanted to see if anyone else agrees with me.
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i agree with you a 100%. i work with children on a daily basis. Thatys horrible that a parent would tell there child it was a bad dream, i have never told my parnets (or anyone) about it most likly never will but really if some one told me that it was a bad dream and i new it wasnt i would go nuts
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