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it seems so unfair

deleted_user
deleted_user
My exboyfriend raped me 3 times (once whilst i was unconcious as i was having a seizure at the time). as a result i became pregnant and then lost the baby at 13 weeks. I was devastated but noone apart from a few close people knew not including my family. Meanwhile the guy who did this is still in touch with me because he is in a circle of friends i keep in touch with. He married one of my close friends and i never told her what happened. She is now pregnant with his "1st child". Them togethr never bothered me but this does because i just feel jealous in some ways but also suppose slightly worried for the unborn child. i know people can change and i would love to believe that he has but i cant help feel he may harm one day someone else he "loves".

He has said on many ocassions if i take him back he would leave her because he loves me. NO chance is the answer. Is this feeling of jealousy normal. What makes it worse is i have been told i cant have children any more due to a health condition i have developed. Life just seems unfair at the moment i suppose. He's happy getting on with life and i seem to be stuck.

Just needed to vent i suppose
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for sharing that. Life can throw a raw deal sometimes and I think you have every right to feel that it is unfair. I am sorry you have found out you can't have children and hear your concerns for the unborn child. In your heart you'll find you answers and your peace and I just wanted to say hang in there. Take care of yourself and your needs as that is all you can do. Others can sort themselves out. Good luck
Deb
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you have got a raw deal. And I am so sorry for your loss. I hope in time you can find the solutions to this but it sounds very complicated.

He is in the same circle of friends and that really complicates it.

Being stuck seems to be common theme and I believe opening up as you have will be a good first step. I think in time you will find a way to deal with horrible person in a way that helps you move.

As far as his wife goes, i don't know if she is in danger or not but I doubt it will be long before she realizes what this guy is about.

take care of yourself.
sadave46
sadave46
Just my opinion for sure but I would suggest you just put a block on his emails or IM's or whatever. Givin the circumstances, I'm baffled as to why you talk to him at all. If you block him you never even see his emails. You're beating a dead horse....and keeping yourself from moving on by continuing to talk to him. It's your choice.
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