Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Thank you all for replying to my follwing post. Is it real/ or denial.
I'm having a hard time believing that he was old enough to know that it was wrong... that's my problem... so please feel free to tell me your honest opinions on rather or not a 14 year old boy (about 17 at the end of the abuse) could really know the extent of what he was doing. Let alone that I was his neice and that is incest.... Why cannot I not allow myself to be angry at this person for stealing so much from me?
I'm having a hard time believing that he was old enough to know that it was wrong... that's my problem... so please feel free to tell me your honest opinions on rather or not a 14 year old boy (about 17 at the end of the abuse) could really know the extent of what he was doing. Let alone that I was his neice and that is incest.... Why cannot I not allow myself to be angry at this person for stealing so much from me?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If it is 14 or below then legally he is guilty and the courts would deal with his crimes.
However in the UK the age that a person knows right from wrong is legally 12 so he would definitely be taken to court if it happened here.
As long as the person knows right from wrong and are mentaly stable (not with a disability such as down syndrome, cerebal palsey, etc) they are young enough to be prosecuted.
Did you know the difference at 14? In this day and age it is unlikely that a fourteen year old didn't or couldn't understant. of course, people mature at different rates and if he was behind in years then it may be a little more understandable. However, If he didn't understand the differce at 14, he surely understood at 17. I know of a friend of mine who's son was suspened at school for three days for some sexual remark he made to a classmate. he was 10 and probably didn't understand the magnitude of what he was doing. but the school had ample education and ongoing educational reinforcement. Gramham was 10 years old. and he understood that it was wrong. I find it hard to believe that this person didn't understand that it was wrong. If he is never taken to task on this he will or may become a sexual preditor as an adult. You have to decide for yourself if you can live with the fact if you do not do something then you may come to realize over time that you could have saved other children from a life or torment.
In as much as our pain is very personal, I think all survivors have a responsibility to ourselves and others to confront abusers when ever it is possible. The only way this proble will be solved is when a zero tolerance policy is adopted by all surviors and society as a whole.
That would depend on what he was taught by his parents to some degree and whether this boy suffers from any mental illness that would effect his sense of reasoning I would suspect.
As for why you're not angry....unfortunately we can't answer that for you but I'm sure it will become apparent to you in time.
You just have it caged up right now, and you won't allow yourself to feel it's full force.
But, take heed when you do unlock the cage to your soul...it will come flooding out...all the anger will pour out.
I don't know how old you were when this abuse was happening?? Doesn't really matter anyways...
If he knew right from wrong...then he should have known better. If he was being secretive...he knew he was up to no good.
Step out of Denial...and into Healing.
There is Hope in Healing!