
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Tell somebody about it only when you are ready to speak about it. When that time comes, then set your boundaries. Tell people "I don't feel comfortable talking about it in detail yet". They will understand, especially if they are adults.
i say it like that b/c i don't want to use the actual wording.
the two responses i got were... one thought i was full of it, but got really in the mood =/
and the other said, you really should talk about it.
oddly enough, the one that said i should talk about it was the one i said the least about, and hurt the most. i felt he took advantage of it.
where as the first guy simply didn't have the kind of reaction i had expected...he never DID anything in appropriate about it
i told a therapist once and stopped seeing her shortly b/c she was very aggressive about her questioning.
most ppl i tell are not pushy about it.
i've never told anyone else though...
just felt like my b/f's had a right to know.
I don't think all therapists are pushy like mine was.
i hope that is helpful. I'm sorry your feeling afraid to talk about these things. it gets easier for me little by little, i hope that it gets easier for you too.
it may be different for your generation.