Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Hello, I'm new to Daily Strength. I thought I would introduce myself here.
I am 21 and a survivor of child abuse. My father physically, emotionally, verbally, and sexually abused me. My mother emotionally and verbally abused me. I was involved in some inappropriate behavior with some friends of mine from the time I was 6 until I was about 12 copying a rape sceen that my two friends had seen on TV. They would take turns holding each other and me down and copying this sceen. In high school I and one other girl were molested by all the boys in one of our classes (we were the only two girls) while the teacher would just turn his back and pretend like he didn't know what was going on.
My parents divorced when I was 15. A judge told me that I was a child and didn't know what I was talking about when I tried to tell him about my father. So I the judge ordered me to visit my father every other weekend during the school year and every other week during the summers until I was 18. My dad had been cheating on my mom and as soon as my mom was out the house my dad was engaged to this other lady. This lady had three adult children all with special needs (not severe however)living with her. Her youngest, a boy, 2 years older than me, would sneek into my room at night when everyone was sleeping and molest me. He began to find ways to get me in my room during the day too without the parents finding out. I was too scared to tell my dad or his mom because I figured they would blame it on me because of his disability.
This is all I can say for now. I'm not doing too well today, and this didn't help.
Rose
I am 21 and a survivor of child abuse. My father physically, emotionally, verbally, and sexually abused me. My mother emotionally and verbally abused me. I was involved in some inappropriate behavior with some friends of mine from the time I was 6 until I was about 12 copying a rape sceen that my two friends had seen on TV. They would take turns holding each other and me down and copying this sceen. In high school I and one other girl were molested by all the boys in one of our classes (we were the only two girls) while the teacher would just turn his back and pretend like he didn't know what was going on.
My parents divorced when I was 15. A judge told me that I was a child and didn't know what I was talking about when I tried to tell him about my father. So I the judge ordered me to visit my father every other weekend during the school year and every other week during the summers until I was 18. My dad had been cheating on my mom and as soon as my mom was out the house my dad was engaged to this other lady. This lady had three adult children all with special needs (not severe however)living with her. Her youngest, a boy, 2 years older than me, would sneek into my room at night when everyone was sleeping and molest me. He began to find ways to get me in my room during the day too without the parents finding out. I was too scared to tell my dad or his mom because I figured they would blame it on me because of his disability.
This is all I can say for now. I'm not doing too well today, and this didn't help.
Rose
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I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. Especially that the judge dismissed you. That makes me so angry. Even if a judge doubts that abuse is going on, it should be investigated.
Welcome. Please be gentle with yourself. (((HUG)))
I am so sorry that these things happened to you and to so many others.
Why don't adults listen to children and teens?
I want to congratulate you on making the progress you have made. I am 36, and just able to begin to speak out about my past abuse. I am still calling myself a victim and not a survivor! But survivor will come!
I told my school counselor, mother, and preacher. No one told me that they did not believe me, they just made it clear that I did not have the right to talk about such things. My abuser (father) works with children at church to this day!
Vent here, cry here.. we will vent and cry with you!
I am using what happened to me to help children. I have worked in day cares and as a nanny for the past 4 years, and worked with children before then too. In the day care settings I had been involved with three suspected abuse cases, and the one I went off on the social worker because you could see hand marks the size of an adults hand on an infants ankles and the social work said there was no proof yet she also stated that 10 other day cares have called about this family and the family leaves each day care after the day care accuses them of abuse. DUH! What more do you need for proof?! I hate the system. I had social workers called on me several times growing up. The doctors would call them each time I ended up in the hospital, but because I had a concusion I never knew what really happened just what my mom and dad told me happened. I want to go back to school and major in social work and also in childhood psychology.
Again, thanks for the replies and hugs.
Rose
That judge should have known better.
In my country (Canada), we had a young girl go to court on charges of prostitution. She looked up to see one of the men who had raped her. He was the judge. He had raped her while she was hitchiking on the side of the road. She was only fourteen years old. I wonder what that judge who didn't believe you was up to at home.
I can't say I blame you for hating the system. It has failed many, many times. I hope that I can help others in need like you have chosen to do. Kudos!
That usually occurs because of all the false accusations people bring up when divorce happens.
I will tell you from surviving my own hell that you can heal and live a wonderful life. You need to take the steps to do that. It is a hard road to take as well but worth it in the end. Hugs to you and welcome to DS. I am here if you ever need to talk!
With love!
Hugs to you for watching out for those little angels you watch.
Rose