*hugz*
i'm so sorry, i can't imagine
and no that does not make you a bad person!
what happend?

Loosing your child? How? what do you mean becauseof your past? That is so sad...

no it doesnt make you a bad person hun try an stay strong i know it aint easy iv been there myself

they think that he may have been abusd sexualy and are saying that because of my past i dont have the ability to protect him the way a proper mum should

abused by who? and this may have been out of your hands depending on where your son was.ie in school, at a family members home etc...Again I know very little so I am grasping at straws here. Sorry if I am way off base.

by a family member, my step-father i have now told my family what is going on and have in return lost all of them, just as when i was a child they have called me a liar, I'm all on my own with this all this to deal with i don't now what to do, i now my step father was capable of doing this but not with boys, and yes i now your all thinking that its my fault but i really didn't think that they would do it to both sex's

i ahev messed up my sons life and lost all my family what is the point of living any more i may as well be over with it and give my son a better shout of life with out me coz he would be alot better off with out me messing things up for him

In my experience everyone who molested me also did my little brother. I've heard some people say they have a prefernce but i don't believe that. Sorry that you are going through this. Is the state trying to take your son? Don't give up without a fight. A child needs their natural parent unless that parent is abusing them. If the rest of your family can't stand by you then you don't need them. Learn from your mistakes and try to do better. As a parent that's all we can do. Definately keep your son away from your step dad.

I am very sorry for what you are going thru. And i know you are in a difficult place and even the thought of losing your child must make you feel very powerless.

I wish i had the majic words to help but i don't. I can tell you are not powerless. I can tell by your answers that you are really down.

If ever there was a time where you have to reach deeper inside you than you have ever done before and find a way to be strong for you and your child.

They cannot take your child away because of your past. If you are unable to a fit mother or something like abuse are reasons they will take your child.

If your little boy is being abuse then involve the authorities and your therapist. Don't just give up because of how you feel and what happen to you. You giving up is not helping you or your child.

Have known several mothers who have lost their children because or drugs or alchole.
All but one did what was needed to be done and got their children back.

I know this must be scaring the hell out of you and my heart realy goes out to you.

stay strong for you and your little boy.

Don't you take the blame for this mans crimes....pls!!!
we're not all sitting here blaming you, gods this is hard...

when i was little they had to tear me away from my mother kicking and sceaming to put her in rehab....she was my only real family. i remember it so clearly...everytime.

but she came back! she got her self healthy, wrote me letters all the time....and came back [i bounced around with different family]

your his mother, and you will always have that bond...it will be there even if you need to step away for a while.

i was being abused, and my mother getting clean, and taking care of her self was the best thing she could ever do for me. She always told me that i was her reason,...and she never could of done it with out me. Simply b/c i lived.

You can over come this *hugz* I know this because i can see how much you love him.

well i found out on Friday that its not a case of child services think he might have been abused but that he has been abused. i called my mum up and told her that my step father has abused my baby and her response has been to cut all contact with us, i cant even begin to describe the guilt and pain i fell for this to have happened to my baby

Does this mean that you're not losing your child? Trish - please let go of your family rather than beating up on yourself for their unfortuante behavior. Get yourself into counseling if you can and if your son is old enough he could use some therapy too. I don't think your family is a source of strength for you right now and I would not look to them for help right now. Good luck.

Can you say who threatened to take your child? Or did someone tell you that child services might take your son? I wouldn't get too scared unless someone with authority said this would happen. You didn't cause this and you are trying to protect him at this point - anyway - good luck.

I can't imagine what it must feel like to feel like you're losing your child. All I can say is perhaps, just try being there for him. Let him know that it's not his fault. Cause it's not yours, and we're NOT thinking that it's all your fault. Otherwise, it would be all our faults too for all of us who went through it as well. And that's not the case. Your family obviously doesn't understand the case...they don't understand that kids are the one NOT to blame. For some reason though, they blame them. Just keep reminding yourself and your son of all the positives. You're beautiful, you're strong, you're a survivor...and whatever obstacles you face now...will only prepare you and make you stronger for the future. But you have to also believe the positives. Trust me, it's not your fault...it never was. It's not his fault either...it was the prune of your step-dad's. He's the one with the problem...and unfortunately, he doesn't think he needs help...so what I'm glad to say is good for you, for looking for some for yourself. Cause that's all you can do right now. Is try to help yourself, and your son. Keep holding on...you won't lose him...stay strong. You'll make it.

child services are the ones that have said they are going to maybe take him from me but I'm hoping that as i have no contact with my family that will show them that i am capable of keeping my son safe and that i have his best interest in mind