Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I'm curious b/c i've noticed a downward trend in my relationships and i would like to stop it. Currently I want nothing to do with a relationship, and i don't like being touched,...not even a handshake.
someone here recently triggered a memory for me in my last relationship... i think a lot of us have difficulties with our lovelife now as an effect, and i would like to know more about this subject.
He TRIED to trigger me in bed onenight before being intimate =[
I told him that i had been "messed with" sexually as a child and not ready to talk. He had also been!!! Then he told me that most of his past girlfriends have been survivers in one way or another.
MAY TRIGGER:
we had an argument just before bed. he went silent, then came up on top of me and rubbed his day old stubble all over my face and neck while putting a lot of weight on me. i pushed him away. he came back and lifted my shirt and did it again, to my body as well. I pushed him away agian and said "why are you doing that?" he said "because i love you". I went into what i can only explain as a black out, and took off his clothes and had sex with him. i don't know why, and i only remembered this yesterday. I hardly ever cry...and i cried yesterday. i HATE it when i cry. but i feel like it was a good thing that i finnally did.
When i get too stressed out everything becomes very confusing, and in like slow motion,...it takes me forever to respond to things around me...and even then it feels like it's not me. that is that?????!
does anyone have a story like this? I have the feeling that i have done this ALOT in the past and forgotten =/ please share your's with me or anything that you can about this subject. I want to have good and healthy relationships!
someone here recently triggered a memory for me in my last relationship... i think a lot of us have difficulties with our lovelife now as an effect, and i would like to know more about this subject.
He TRIED to trigger me in bed onenight before being intimate =[
I told him that i had been "messed with" sexually as a child and not ready to talk. He had also been!!! Then he told me that most of his past girlfriends have been survivers in one way or another.
MAY TRIGGER:
we had an argument just before bed. he went silent, then came up on top of me and rubbed his day old stubble all over my face and neck while putting a lot of weight on me. i pushed him away. he came back and lifted my shirt and did it again, to my body as well. I pushed him away agian and said "why are you doing that?" he said "because i love you". I went into what i can only explain as a black out, and took off his clothes and had sex with him. i don't know why, and i only remembered this yesterday. I hardly ever cry...and i cried yesterday. i HATE it when i cry. but i feel like it was a good thing that i finnally did.
When i get too stressed out everything becomes very confusing, and in like slow motion,...it takes me forever to respond to things around me...and even then it feels like it's not me. that is that?????!
does anyone have a story like this? I have the feeling that i have done this ALOT in the past and forgotten =/ please share your's with me or anything that you can about this subject. I want to have good and healthy relationships!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
With my husband (he doesn't know about my past), we manage alright most the time but there are certain things i won't let him do because it reminds me of what my abuser did to me.
I had my first flashback of my sexual abuse when I 'lost' my viriginity. Since then I have had 5 different sexual relationships/parteners and I have struggled with having sex too. At first it wasnt as bad because I didnt fully understand what I was remembering but as I get older and more stuff comes back to me the feelings get worse.
Its not all the time though sometimes if I can shut my mind up and remind myself that it is normal and should be enjoyable to have sex, I can relax and have a good time. My current boyfriend is very understanding and anytime I cant have it, he doesnt pressure me. Sometimes I feel bad for him and will go through with it and not tell him Im not in the mood because he shouldnt have to miss out on that part of our relationship.
Dhalia xx
I was & still am a sex addict, i can't imagine the combo to be good.
i believe that he understood what he was doing...and that scares me..
TKVanGogh
awwa!! it does sound like he really luvs you, and i know that's really scary....but it's also rare too! i'm so happy that you have someone like that in your life!
Sarah, have you seen someone about it?
NotyourAve... this is exactly what happend to me! i had a flashback yrs ago....but this last relationship must of triggered something major cuz i haven't wanted to sleep with anyone since... =/ i can tell it's changing just by my drive alone...just wish i wanted a partner involved.