
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I have to use EMDR and Alice Milles books to get over. I don't have flashbacks any more.
If I can help you in any way let me know this is long process but doable if you have a good therapist.
I tend to zone out during sex, and am sometimes numb, KWIM??
But, I think you have to go THROUGH therapy...get on some good meds....and then there is also sex therapy as well...BUT, I think you need to work through the therapy first.
How do you move on and find a good relationship instead of all the guys that wont stick around? I'm tired of being alone and isolated, but I just don't see any way out of it.
I too had problems with sex but as time goes by it should get better like it did for me. Find someone you trust and wont pressure you. take things slowly.
Keep telling urself while u are being intimate that it is good, pure, right and not dirty. Keep the lights on so u can look at ur partner and see that they are not ur abuser. keep urself in the present. Maybe ur partner can talk to you so that you can hear that his voice and him are different from your abuser.
Does ur partner know what happened and why you are backing off. Maybe u should tell them so they understand and hopefully they will be supportive.
Dont despair, it will get better. dont be hard on urself. best of luck
EMDR is a wonderful therapy that allows you to disconnect the memories and emotions of what you experience with abuse to what you are feeling in a concentual sexual relationship.
With love!