Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I'm just curious,
*Do you think about it often, or rarely?
*Does it still effect your way of life?
*Do you feel like a different person afterwards, or the same?
*Does hearing the word "rape" bother you?
*How do you feel about your rapist?
*Is your rapist free or imprisioned? How does that effect the way you feel?
*Has your self-esteem suffered as a result of the rape?
*If so, do you feel you've gained any of your self-esteem back?
*How do you feel about sexually intimacy?
*Do you feel you have to compartmentalize the rape in order to function?
*Do you feel optimistic about the future?
*Are you hyper-conscious(sp?) about your surroundings since the rape?
*Do you find it easier to cope when you talk about it, or when you don't?
I think that hearing other peoples' responses to these questions, will help me find the best way to cope with my own assault.
Thanks so very much!
~Grace
*Do you think about it often, or rarely?
*Does it still effect your way of life?
*Do you feel like a different person afterwards, or the same?
*Does hearing the word "rape" bother you?
*How do you feel about your rapist?
*Is your rapist free or imprisioned? How does that effect the way you feel?
*Has your self-esteem suffered as a result of the rape?
*If so, do you feel you've gained any of your self-esteem back?
*How do you feel about sexually intimacy?
*Do you feel you have to compartmentalize the rape in order to function?
*Do you feel optimistic about the future?
*Are you hyper-conscious(sp?) about your surroundings since the rape?
*Do you find it easier to cope when you talk about it, or when you don't?
I think that hearing other peoples' responses to these questions, will help me find the best way to cope with my own assault.
Thanks so very much!
~Grace
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Hi everyone, I just want to vent. One Saturday two to three weeks ago, I helped Mom pruned her bougainvillea, handwashed her clothes, chopping/frying dinner, scrubbed the tiles in three bathrooms, mopped the tiles, vacumn the floor, typed 5000 words for my teacher..... Twenty four hours later, I could not lift my entire right arm as it was red and swollen. My right hand became so swollen that I...
I think about it every day. It's always with me and I'm always scared and hurting.
Yes, I don't really go out anymore because I can't stand being touched by another male (except my boyfriend but we're in a long distance relationship)
I'm completely different. I'm stronger but I'm weaker. I've grown up so much, but it wasn't exactly the way I'd imagine it happening. I'll never be the same person again.
Yes. I hate when people are like 'I'll rape you' or just joke about it. It's not even funny it's sick and they have no idea.
Well I don't feel anything. I spent years hating him and it just hurt me even more. I don't even care anymore, he's hurt me enough. It's not him that hurts me anymore, it's what he did to me.
I didn't tell anyone at the time. I was 15 and I didn't have a good relationship with my Mum. I just tried to hide it and deal with it in my own way. So yes he's free and those who know about it always get angry with me about that but it was my choice and I couldn't go through all that on my own.
Yes of course my self-esteem has suffered.
No I don't think I'll even feel confident and free like I use to.
Well I have a boyfriend now. But I havn't have sex with him yet. I will when I'm ready. I don't mind him touching me, but it did take some time for me to feel comfortable with it.
I feel as optimistic as I can about my future. I have an amazing boyfriend. I'm going to be moving away from where it happened and I'm going to start a new life
I think it's easier when I don't talk about it.
Please don't follow what I did. It's 3 years on and I'm still a mess.
*It effects everything, in the waythat it has made me who i am, good and bad.
*It was an ongoing thing so i can't really answer that.
*the word doesn't bother me butthe suffering it causes does.
*I hate what he did to me, but i feel nothing about him.
*He is free, which worries me sometimes.
*I have very low self esteem
*Some days a re good others are bad.
*I am fine with sexual intamacy with my husband but before him i had a period of promiscuity i used to seperate love and sex, sex was power.
*Wheni think about what happened i see it as a movie i am watching.
*Some days it is an effort to get out of bed, others i appreciate what i have and feel really lucky to be alive
*I am very paranoid and suspicious of everyone.
*I find it easy to talk to strangers but not to those i love as i can see the pain it causes them to hear it.
I hope my answers will help in some way x