Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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helping a child predator

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our son has been convicted of a felony since he touched someone. We have only seen his counselor once and we want to know how to help him so this doe's not happen again. Please respond, sincerely
anne39
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Why to see the councelore only once?
How old is he?
How old was he when it happend?

If the counselor is to busy then see another one or better yet.
I belive in the best. I know there are many counselors that have helped many people do great things. But there limited to the tool they can use.
So fill in my blanks then I have a better picture to help in advice.

Also I am sorry for your pain this caused.
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From experience, I know that it is very difficult for these type of people to change. There is hope though. A VERY high percentage of child abusers have themselves been sexually abused in some way or form when they were a child. By abusing others, they continue the cycle. If this is the case with him, then I believe that he can change. Until he chooses to go to therapy and work through his issues, though, he will just be a relapse waiting to happen. It is going to be a long road ahead for him, but he can do it if he is willing to be 100% open and deal with his pain and shame. Good luck with everything and I hope the best for you. You have a long and difficult journey ahead of you all, but you can do it. I hope that this helps.
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The only thing I could say is keep in counseling. He needs to be able to talk to someone. He might be able to open up and tell the counselor what he is feeling. Hope all goes well.
Johnette
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I know a child predator and one of the best things to do to keep everyone safe even your son is no secrets. If he can be open and honest this helps. It may be difficult for you but let him know he can come to you to talk about anything. If he is still having these thoughts he needs to express these thoughts they may be hard to hear and disguesting to you but he needs that support group who won't judge him, will listen to him and will be there for him. I'm almost certain a consulor will tell you the same thing. I would listen to 100 child molestors talk about there problems no matter how hard if I thought it would save another 100 innocent children from becoming victims. Lord knows we have enough of them just look on this website. He needs to feel loved too it's important he is still your son. I hope this helps. I hope he does get the help to prevent anymore pain to anyone.
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