Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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deleted_user
deleted_user
hi
just joined yesterday,but have been suffering a long time

what i need is some advice re sa even saying the words makes me hurt in the middle of my chest,i have had 1 flashback when i was 26 this started me to have phycotic deppression and a visit to the mental health unit, i didnt tell anybody and just thought it was deppression as i started to diet,my family just thought i was a freak and that "i shouldnt be in this loony bin" was my dads words.anyway to cut a long long long story short after many years of mental illness i approached my doctor and spilled the beans he reffered me to the mental health trust and i was booked on a course of art therapy last year,it has helped me understand why and what supressing memories has done to my behaviour but cuold i be suffering from ptsd,and i need more therapy to try and get the memories out or just leave them suppressed,not sure what to do as was ill last year for four months with stress,but couldnt take medication as i think its poisoning me,i am now suffering with panic attacks again and issues re food control.any advice of which way to go as i need to work and try to carry on a normal life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
if memories are suppressed and you don't handle stress well then it might be best to leave them repressed and just deal with the trauma and behaviors. if you don't believe in medication i suggest a kind of therapy called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT for short to help you manage the anxiety and stress. It's really good for every day management of stress and anxiety as well as depression. It's also good for changing destructive behaviors like eating disorders. It doesn't work for everybody, but for others it's been absolutely life changing, so its worth looking into. Well, that's my two cents, I hope it was helpful.

Strength and Peace to you,
Sakura
motherduck
motherduck
Welcome new friend. I'm sorry you've needed to come here, but happy we have DS to come to. I hope here you will find the love and support I have. Many blessings to you on this journey of discovery and healing.
Willingtobefree
Willingtobefree
With the repressed memories it will take time for them to come up. But I agree with Sakura, for now it may be a good idea to leave them repressed. However, the food issues stem from the abuse. I know. I have anorexia and bulimia. Currently I have been a month free of bulimia. It's a struggle every day for me on food. However, getting help and joining here are wonderful first steps. When you are ready we are all here to listen when you need to pour your heart out!
deleted_user
deleted_user
hi
feel like i am losing control again of my issues, my drinking has spiralled,
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well the problem with just leaving those memories hidden where they are is that usually when you get to a point in your life when your truly feeling strong and happy is when you start to remember more! Because your mind thinks you are strong enough to handle more. some never come back but it they are there they may come back and haunt you later in your life.

My couselor tried to get me to deal with the emotion of all my abuse so even if I have another memory come back I know how to cope with it.

Coping skills are a wonderful thing to learn so when memories of your abuse come to surface you can better deal with them.

The problem with self medicating with alcohol and drugs is that it doesn't allow you to cope with what you need to it only numbs you!
Time to go to an AA meeting!

With love!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Take your meds. That are there to help you.

Art has helped me tremendously! I am glad you are utilizing this talent! I think, (if you haven't already....) Try telling yourself that no one but yourself will see the finial result of your work. It is for your eyes only! Don't worry about lines, and perspective. Just draw for you.....draw what your feelings are wanting you to do. Draw how the tightness in your chest feels. Make a connection with your work.

I know this is tough work! But you CAN get through this!! I am here for you!
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