
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I lived in las vegas for a year before returning to California. In the last 3 months there I had a job where I was made to deal with sexual remarks and inuendos by my boss and harrased in the parking lot then, when I did not respond I was let go. A co-worker was so appalled at my treatment she told me some things that had happened behind my back. She told me these things after I was let go. I then, thinking she would stand up for me, filed a complaint with the eeoc. This co-worker now emailed me and said she is too "afraid" to stand up for me and she will absolutely not do it. I have not emailed her back since she wrote me this email. I am now wondering if I should respond to her or not? What do you think?
I have called many many lawyers in Las Vegas that are suppose to deal with these kinds of cases (labor law attorneys). Since I am out of work because of this retaliatory firing I have absolutely no funds to a) pay for an attorney consultation b) pay a lawyer upfront for this case. My responses have been; Most law offices are no longer taking sexual harrasment cases, or they want hundreds of dollars for an initial consult or if they do talk to me they usually will say it's a good case, BUT they want thousands of dollars upfront to take it. Las Vegas is not a "woman friendly" town if you can understand that. This woman had told me she had her own case of sexual harrasment when she worked a job in San Francisco. That is why it all the more heartbreaking that she has taken this new attitude toward my case.
I guess I am wondering if someone can actually put themselves in my place and then how (or not)respond to this co-worker. The problem I have is TRUSTING saying anything to this person. Because she said she felt so much was at risk, and she is someone who LIVES for approval from her friends,co-workers and family. She initially felt she was garnering favor, as a friend, with me, and had an initial sense of the amazing wrongs involved. BUT her standing with the company suddenly came into focus, and I now believe she would use things said against me, as that would be the easiest and more popular thing to do. She is young and not very sure of herself as a person. With these things in mind how would you see yourself responding? Do you think I should respond to her email, and, if so, how?
I have called many many lawyers in Las Vegas that are suppose to deal with these kinds of cases (labor law attorneys). Since I am out of work because of this retaliatory firing I have absolutely no funds to a) pay for an attorney consultation b) pay a lawyer upfront for this case. My responses have been; Most law offices are no longer taking sexual harrasment cases, or they want hundreds of dollars for an initial consult or if they do talk to me they usually will say it's a good case, BUT they want thousands of dollars upfront to take it. Las Vegas is not a "woman friendly" town if you can understand that. This woman had told me she had her own case of sexual harrasment when she worked a job in San Francisco. That is why it all the more heartbreaking that she has taken this new attitude toward my case.
I guess I am wondering if someone can actually put themselves in my place and then how (or not)respond to this co-worker. The problem I have is TRUSTING saying anything to this person. Because she said she felt so much was at risk, and she is someone who LIVES for approval from her friends,co-workers and family. She initially felt she was garnering favor, as a friend, with me, and had an initial sense of the amazing wrongs involved. BUT her standing with the company suddenly came into focus, and I now believe she would use things said against me, as that would be the easiest and more popular thing to do. She is young and not very sure of herself as a person. With these things in mind how would you see yourself responding? Do you think I should respond to her email, and, if so, how?
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Keep the email which is your property and it may be possible to use it to your advantage.
Personnaly I would not respond to it unless you know that you could trust her,as she has changed her mind I would say that you could not .
I hope this helps you decide.
If I were you, I would protect my back when responding to her email. I would write her an email thanking her for her initial support; telling her that you are very sorry about the change in her attitude but that you uncerstand it, in light of her present situation. That will not come back to bite you. However, I would refrain from sending copies to the other employees. What goes around comes around and you do not want the pain that this would cause to come back around at you.
If your case is solid - can you find a lawyer that will take the matter on a contingency fee basis? That way you would not be required to come up with any up-front money. But - please think long and hard prior to initiating litigation - it can cost you more than you know. It is a very daunting experience and can literally consume a person.
Take care and good luck.
Lindajean
I am in the process of trying to find a lawyer on a contingent basis. I am very well aware of all that I have to do to pursue this case.
This co-worker has made my journey much more difficult, but not impossible.
Good luck to you in your own endeavors.
*I would be happy to explain the whole actual story if anyone would like to know it.