you don't just get over rape. and for anyone to tell you to means they just don't get. Any kind of rape will need a lot of support and couseling to learn to deal with what happened and help you heal. No one just gets over being brutally attacked.

pleare take care of yourself and don't listen to the bs of people saying just get over it. do what you need to do to help yourself.

I'm sorry that someone told you to "get over it". You should not feel like you are supposed to just move on as this can be more hurtful than confronting your feelings and how it has affected you. Please get support and take care of yourself. Also take your time. You are what's most important now!

You aren't supposed to just get over rape. Mothers are kind of weird when it comes to the whole sexual assault thing. Maybe your mother is in denial, maybe she feels guilty, or maybe she is just down right selfish. Was she sexually abused as a child? If your mother was raped as a child, and never got any help (counseling, etc.) then it's best not to discuss this with her. Anywho, don't feel that you need to get over it right away. Have you considered therapy?

She's wrong, and you are right - the circumstance was completely different. My guess is that she never dealt with her abuse, and she can't imagine you dealing with yours any other way than how she's coped. But she's clearly not healthy, because if she was, she wouldn't tell you to get over it, and she wouldn't be behaving in the other ways you describe. You are on the right track, talking about how you are feeling here. I'm so sorry for this hell you've been through, but please know there is hope and healing in your future. Keep writing, keep speaking, keep expressing. With love.

its easer for people to deny problems then to except them.if they cant cope they will be in denial.

I have heard that so much and tried to. It never goes away. I think it is who I am

Dad cannot always protect you and shouldn't feel guilt and mom is a f'n idiot. I seriously doubt she got over anything just by the life she is living. Does that look like she is dealing? Living in the streets at one time then sleeping around while maried? Nah. Pardon me, but screw her. Tell someone who cares....that's what you need.

A little note here that you should be aware of, if your mom tells you to just get over it just like she got over it then guess what. She has not yet gotten over it. She is covering it up. Even though you may not think much about your mom and you may cast a lot of blame on her there is something else you should know. Since she has admitted to facing this same issue we know that the event happened to her. What you may not know is that her actions of cheating and such although NOT justifiable AT ALL it can stem from the rape as well. Lack of self worth, desires of self bodily harm, depression and thoughts of suicide can lead a person to act out what they feel inside. Whether they act on these impulses or not depends on two things 1. Whether or not they get help and 2. How strong they are, or how weak they are.

So it should be VERY obvious and evident that she is far from over anything.

That was a cruel thing to say. I won't even repeat the words. Bless you for reaching out to this community for support and encouragement. You have the right to heal. And healing takes time. You get the help you need, you truly deserve it.