Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
do you ever get panic attacks involving your kids? this happens to me ALLLLL the time. and it frustrates me so much.
since my daughter was old enough to get baby-sat (around 14 months old) my mother in law had given her a bath, even though i was not ok with it. She has always come up with some excuse and some reason WHY she needs a bath. mainly she says that she changed her diapers, so a bath is no different. now that she is older (she is 5) is doesnt bother me as much since i can ask her questions and she can tell me what is going on.
another time we were all sitting there eating a family dinner and my mother in law starts talking about how funny it was that she took a shower and was standing there naked and my daughter (2 at a time) was trying to feed her play food. now, i KNOW that things like this happen, but mentally im thinking, "wtf are you naked around my kid!" and my heart is racing a million miles a second while i try not to freak out about it.
just a few days ago she called me laughing saying she was cleaning her house and found a pair of my daughters undies in her bed and just thought they were so cute with how small they are. she had been depressed but seeing them made her laugh and put her in a better mood. im faking a laugh along with her and again, my heart is going a million miles a second.
even at family get togethers when there is a large amount of people, i constantly have my eye on my kids. our daughter has an older cousin who is 13. he has always been very attached to her and takes her to play. i know everyone thinks im crazy because i never want to leave her alone. they always tell me to just let them go play, but mentally i am just too scared and check up where ever they are every 5 minutes. luckily, now my son is always with them too so i have more of an excuse to go check now.
even with family get togethers at MY family, i am always in the same room or the room right next to hers so i can see her and who is around her. again, this is a little easier since my son is usually loudly chasing her around, but i still get so paranoid.
my son i dont get as paranoid about. he is 2, but he is loud, out spoken, and very very active. he is also rarely away from me. Now that my daughter is older though i DO worry so much about her. she is quiet, sweet, shy, and eager to please. she hates to upset people and i worry about her all the time even though she is rarely alone with ANYONE. its only me, my husband, and my in-laws.
does anyone else get as paranoid as me?
since my daughter was old enough to get baby-sat (around 14 months old) my mother in law had given her a bath, even though i was not ok with it. She has always come up with some excuse and some reason WHY she needs a bath. mainly she says that she changed her diapers, so a bath is no different. now that she is older (she is 5) is doesnt bother me as much since i can ask her questions and she can tell me what is going on.
another time we were all sitting there eating a family dinner and my mother in law starts talking about how funny it was that she took a shower and was standing there naked and my daughter (2 at a time) was trying to feed her play food. now, i KNOW that things like this happen, but mentally im thinking, "wtf are you naked around my kid!" and my heart is racing a million miles a second while i try not to freak out about it.
just a few days ago she called me laughing saying she was cleaning her house and found a pair of my daughters undies in her bed and just thought they were so cute with how small they are. she had been depressed but seeing them made her laugh and put her in a better mood. im faking a laugh along with her and again, my heart is going a million miles a second.
even at family get togethers when there is a large amount of people, i constantly have my eye on my kids. our daughter has an older cousin who is 13. he has always been very attached to her and takes her to play. i know everyone thinks im crazy because i never want to leave her alone. they always tell me to just let them go play, but mentally i am just too scared and check up where ever they are every 5 minutes. luckily, now my son is always with them too so i have more of an excuse to go check now.
even with family get togethers at MY family, i am always in the same room or the room right next to hers so i can see her and who is around her. again, this is a little easier since my son is usually loudly chasing her around, but i still get so paranoid.
my son i dont get as paranoid about. he is 2, but he is loud, out spoken, and very very active. he is also rarely away from me. Now that my daughter is older though i DO worry so much about her. she is quiet, sweet, shy, and eager to please. she hates to upset people and i worry about her all the time even though she is rarely alone with ANYONE. its only me, my husband, and my in-laws.
does anyone else get as paranoid as me?
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I think you need to stick with your gut instincts and if something makes you uncomfortable, don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says. We are the only ones who can keep our kids safe. Start now with teaching your kids about good touch vs. bad touch. Keep the dialogue going throughout their childhoods.
You might be paranoid, but that doesn't mean that no one will try to hurt your children. Just remember, though, that you have to balance it so that you aren't smothering her, that she has the freedom to grow, explore, make mistakes, and learn. Otherwise, by all means keep track of who she is with!