I'm not jugding, I'm just wondering how do you learn from flashbacks? What do you learn from flashbacks?

Just curious, do you have concrete clear flashbacks, or body memories? And yeah, where are you finding a lesson in them, I'm not sure if I'm scared or mad I don't clearly remember.

I really hate flashbacks. At first I didn't think they was real but they are. I had to ask my older sister about things. I didn't remember things before so I blocked it out. I thought I was going cray until I talked to my sister and found out the stuff is true. I don't understand how anyone can not fear or hate them. Everytime I get on it's so painful.

I don't understand how you got to this point. However I would be happy to get to this point.

I am being a little tough but just remember that the past is OVER. I am going to say again. THE PAST IS OVER.

No one is going to hurt us if we dont let them. We are adults now and we have wrights and we can call the police if someone tries to hut us.

We survived the abuse and we can survive the memories because they are only memories.

Flashbacks are a window or a door to our past. They are there for a reason and they tell us to pay attention. The more we pay attention and learn from them the faster they disappear.

I usually go for a long walk and let the flashbacks come to me. They are painful but I understand why I am the way I am, and if I understand I can change.

Yes the flashbacks are memories of the past. Flashbacks are painful. Yes we can call the police. Sometimes It takes time to get over the past. I don't know about anyone else but my flashbacks came when they want. I can't make my flashback come. How do you make them come and go when you want ? Flashbacks can interfere with people's lives.

I study my self and know in advance when the flashback or disassociation is going to come and why.

I use EMDR at home for the pain

Also it takes time and lost of writing and reading to get to that point but once you are there thinks move fast.

My flashbacks are so real they take over my whole body and consume me, as if I am reliving the traumatic even again. I agree that it is necesarry to remember my past in order to heal from it, but what about repeated flashbacks of memories that are quite clear and things you already know? Why would my brain be trying to tell me something? I AM terrified of flashbacks because they are so all consuming. If they didn't control so much of my life, and if I could talk about what happened to me it would be different..... I'm just locked up inside. Yes I do write about it, and it doesn't help. I am in therapy, but I can't open up about it... I've tried. Not sure what to do....

I'm not really sure what your point is. Is it a discussion or are you giving advice, because if it's advice I'm not sure it's right for everyone. I have no warning, they come when they want and cripple me. I physically react to them. They serve no purpose other than to remind me of how horrible it was. I'd be interested to hear what the community member who rated your posts as inspirational is doing to cope with flash-backs, as most of the replies have been pretty negative.

Also, the past is a part of me, it can never be "over". It's an individual thing, and for some of us part of our guilt is fueled by people saying "it's in the past, you should move on with your life". Sorry, but I can't.

Juice, you write:

"it's in the past, you should move on with your life".

No incorrect. "It's in the past, you should learn from it" How can you forget? Why?

Also we are all having and adult discussion. The members or this community are not children. They don't need advice

Linkpac, you write:

I am in therapy, but I can't open up about it... I've tried. Not sure what to do

I had the same problem. What I did is write them and read them to the therapist.

Caliban, I asked a perfectly polite question, and you reply in an unhelpful and nasty way. Why? If you have posted a discussion, I can't see where the discussion is in your post. What I actually wrote was: "Also, the past is a part of me, it can never be "over". It's an individual thing, and for some of us part of our guilt is fueled by people saying "it's in the past, you should move on with your life". "I don't understand your reply. I have nothing to learn fom my abuse.By saying it's over in one of your replies it made me feel you were saying the past is not relevent to our lives now.
As for your comment about us having an "adult discussion" and that the memebers of the community "don't need advice", what do you mean? I'm puzzled and hurt by your answer to my question. If you disagree with me, let's have an "adult discussion" without you implying I'm behaving childishly.You may not have noticed, but some of the osts are advice.

Im just starting to deal with my repressed memories, Im starting to have flasbacks! Is there no way to prevent them? Your good to write about them, thanks for the post. I hate it I was up all night scared by myself, thinking about it like could this be true. Then they just come out of nowhere. Like a movie in my head. Im a very visual person it sucks bad!

Juice ,
I did not mean to offend you with my replay. I am sorry that you are hurt. I send you a hug