Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I have never really talk about what happen to me growing up to anybody really because it is to painful to talk about. I was a victim of one of my dads freinds for about 6 years. I just feel so guilty and ashamed about what i feel i let happen to me. I know that is silly but it the way that i feel. I did tell my parents about what was on but they didn't believe me and told me not tell anyone about was going going on with me. So the sexual abuse carried on until the year i left school, which was 13 years ago i am now 29 and i am still have nightmares about he did to me i was just wondered if anybody else feels like that.
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You DID NOT let it happened to you, you have nothing to be ashamed about and you definately are not guilty of anything. I think your parents telling you not to tell any one has made you feel like you did something wrong and you should be ashamed when you didnt ask for this to happen. You did nothing wrong, please believe that. Its been 10 years for me, my dads side of the family didnt believe me and that made me feel like i had something to be guilty about. I have my good days and a few bad days x
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You are not alone in feeling the way you do. I feel the exact same way.
I think intellectually we know it wasn't something we "let" happen, but those feelings are still there. I am not able to talk about it either b/c I feel so ashamed and guilty. Maybe the reaction we recieved when we tried to tell has something to do with this?
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Thanks for your kind words and i understand what you are saying, it is just i cant help the way that i feel. It has had such an impact on me that i find it very hard to trust anybody but especially men, but i suppose that we all find different ways to try and deal with what happen to us.
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hey anne, i kno exactly wat u mean..i feel the same way...i feel like i let it happen...i hvnt really told anyone abt it, but my current bf n a very few close friends...my ex knew abt my brother abusing me, but he too abused me...n i feel responsible for tht too...n now i cant trust anyone other thn the few tht i was close to b4 evrything...n my current bf is one of my old friends...he knows it too, n he has helped me alot to feel better abt myself...n he tells me tht it wasnt my fault, but i cant help feeling tht way...
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I still do. I feel ashamed quite a bit and feel out of control to. My prayers are with you. My best wishes to you.
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its not your fault this happened to you, you have nothing to be ashamed of. stay strong.
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