I read a previous message on this board and I wanted to ask ppl's views about something that happened to me at uni. I went out with this guy a couple of times. We had sex once. anyway we went out again and he came back to my room. I was going to have sex with him, but I am always safe, always (my uncle died of aids). Anyway so I told him yeah, put a condom on, which he did. Then he started to get a little rough, and he took it off without me seeing. Anyway I noticed before he did anything. Well actually I noticed the condom he was in the process of pining me down. I told him I wasn't willing to have sex without a condom. He said I didn't mean that. He pushed down on top of me, I squirmed and threw him off me. He smacked his head on the bedside table (it made him bleed which I think he deserved). He called me a bitch, and said he had only wanted to see how hard I would struggle. He put his trousers on and left.

I think its only through my previous experiences with an extremely abusive ex that I was able to react so strongly and actually physically remove him from me. I didn't report it but in hindsight I think I should have. I had bruises on my wrists and he had a gash on his head so there was some evidence, but I suppose he would have said it was just consensual. Given that I was willing to sleep with the guy was what he did attempt to rape me?