Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
First the back story. When i was small (about 5 i think) a friend of the family would put his hand up my dress and touch me.
We were playing a game with my brother and his in a dark cellar - like "it" or "tig" but in the dark. When he would catch me he would put his hand over my mouth and put his hand up my skirt. It was scary in the dark and knowing there were other people nearby who couldn't help. This went on for a number of years and i became afraid of visiting them, although my parents could never figure out why. They always used to send me off to play with the boys in the cellar even when i didn't want to. I guess they wanted to talk to their friends. We still see the family regularly although this boy (man now) now lives in Germany (thank god).
This has affected me quite badly in terms of my relationships and even now sex can sometimes be scary.
I'm worried that this doesn't count. That far worse has happened to others and that i shouldn't be this upset about it. Sometimes i think i am being weak and should just get over it - but then that hasn't really helped so far.
Am i overreacting?
We were playing a game with my brother and his in a dark cellar - like "it" or "tig" but in the dark. When he would catch me he would put his hand over my mouth and put his hand up my skirt. It was scary in the dark and knowing there were other people nearby who couldn't help. This went on for a number of years and i became afraid of visiting them, although my parents could never figure out why. They always used to send me off to play with the boys in the cellar even when i didn't want to. I guess they wanted to talk to their friends. We still see the family regularly although this boy (man now) now lives in Germany (thank god).
This has affected me quite badly in terms of my relationships and even now sex can sometimes be scary.
I'm worried that this doesn't count. That far worse has happened to others and that i shouldn't be this upset about it. Sometimes i think i am being weak and should just get over it - but then that hasn't really helped so far.
Am i overreacting?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You had a terrible thing done to you that has affected your life. Becuase you see what others went thru does not mean what you are going thru is any less truamatic for you. This person has done something to you that has caused a lot of distress in your life.
you have come to a good place where people can relate to your pain and healing.
have you gone to counseling?
This most definitely counts, your trust was betrayed.
Good luck with getting help.
-hugs- x
The fact that others may have suffered worse does not make your situation any less traumatic.
I am sorry you went through such situations.
I have been to counselling but ended up focusing on the effects on my life and not the cause - my choice at the time, unconsciously. I still have questions that pop inton my head when i'm tired and a little wall that goes up when i try to think about it all too deeply. That's why i'm here. I don;t feel like anyone can understand the impact it can have unless they've felt the impact too.
I'm the only person i know who has been through this (thank god) so it is good to be able to talk in a space where no one draws back or pities you.