
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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I was abused by both parents and my grandparents from 3-16 my grandparents have been dead for years.I recently found out my father abused me as a child and hes just been diagnoised with cancer and is having an opperation next thursday 15th nov weather he survives the opp we dont know.some people are saying i should forgive him for abusing me,im still shocked at finding out he abused me so how can i forgive him,he was the one i trusted then the other 3 was abusing me.
i hate him why should i forgive him , so he can die in peace, i just dont know what to do, i want to confront him not forgive him ,if i confront him i have to do it in the naxt week im just so confused do i confront him ,forgive him or do nothing i would love your opinion please.
i hate him why should i forgive him , so he can die in peace, i just dont know what to do, i want to confront him not forgive him ,if i confront him i have to do it in the naxt week im just so confused do i confront him ,forgive him or do nothing i would love your opinion please.
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I can understand why you hate your father. I have a question, though. How did you come to realize that he abused you?
i have been suspisious of him for a while and with my mom abusing me a few things he said didnt add up i started getting memories and flashbacks with him doing things which i know happened but didnt realise it was him.
Forgiveness also has to come at a time when you feel emotionally ready for this huge step. You can't possibly put a time scale on that.
Good luck and stay strong.
Mandiex
to forgive them means you have released yourself from being acutely tied to the torment and holds you back from moving beyond the abuse.
Forgiveness is different for everyone. I forgave because it was good for me not them. Do i forget - no way - So i forgave them for me to empower me over what they did.
But it is different for everyone.
Forgiveness i think is a very nebulus term in some respects with no clear definition.
If forgiving helps you heal then I am for it.
hope it all works out for
big hugz xx
This, I believe is important to our healing. I am not willing to forgive my father for my abuse.
You can not do this because he is sick or dying.. You must do this when you reach the point in your healing that you are comfortable wih it. If you feel you must confront him then by all means, do that.
Love and Light
You are in my thoughts and prayers
I think it is totally up to u to forgive and not for anyone else to pressure u into. It would be hard for u to forgive ur dad if he hasnt acknowledged what he did or said sorry. Maybe u should think about confronting u dad to give urself peace of mind. Even if he denies it or doesnt react positively you may empower urself by confronting him which could help with ur healing.
Good luck with it all.