hmmm.....if i where you,i would check out to see what his true personality is.if the one he is showing really is his true one,then you would be allright.also,i would wait a while before really getting intimate.but, thats just me.i also think you should tell him what happened,if you think he REALLY cares for you,and only if you think you are capable of doing that yourself.and,dude,if your guy is a jerk after,just kick him til next monday!

I was also find it difficult to get close to men due to my past, and i was in the same situation a few months ago. After a while of thinking i finally decided to tell him only in slight detail the minor facts about my past. This itself wasn't easy as i had tole a boyfriend before and he used it aginst me and made me feel terrible about it, but with my boyfrined now he was very understanding and kind about it. So i know he's worth keeping and he has put no pressure on the sex issue. So personally i think that you should sit him down and not give him the full details as that may be to difficult until you know his reaction, but give him a vauge idea about your past and explain that your not ready for a sexual relationship yet. If he understands he's worth keeping inf not you should leave him because you deserve better. hope i've helped

If he knows what it means to be patient and earn your trust...then he's worth keeping. If he gets offended and defensive when you tell him you're just not ready right now...then leave him. If that's the case then he's only looking for one thing. Plain and simple.

I agree with Staki. Tell him just enough to give him an idea, and see how he handles it. And I think that the earlier you do it the better because if you don't then he may be offended by your turning down his advances.

Also, I was in your same situation and I chose not to tell my boyfriend. The problem came when he wanted to be physical and I didn't know what to do. We ended up being physical and I told him afterward, his response was "I don't understand why you want to stop we've already gone there"

Something to think a bout

I agree that you should mention just enough to give him an idea. A guy I was dating a while back, after I told him the bare minimum then replied "Well we better sort you out then" and started to get physical. Thankfully I found the strength to stand up for myself.

On the other hand, the guy I'm with now (and have been for 18 months) said "would you mind if I held you and looked after you for a few minutes?" We cuddled, I cried...I told him more and fell in love with him there and then.

A guys reaction to the minimum amount of information can tell you an awful lot.