Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Belonging

deleted_user
deleted_user
Thinking about belonging and the feeling of not in most parts of my life. Is this a common feeling with sexual abuse survivors?
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes, i think it is very common.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes I agree with you it's very common
deleted_user
deleted_user
It seems like I struggle everywhere. I feel like I am so different from others. It is nice to know I am not alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I;ve always thought I didn't fit in. I'm a basic loner.
sadave46
sadave46
Add me to the list...always felt "different" and still do.
CarlaBentley
CarlaBentley
Very common!!! Which makes sense in most cases as there was something going on which was not spoken about. You carry a dreadful secret and believe that you are the only one going through it. Usually.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i totally agree i always feel lost even though im surround by people who love me.
grasshopper7
grasshopper7
yes -- not belonging, not being or feeling worthy. i feel conflicted a lot. isolated. push people away.
deleted_user
deleted_user
happiest times in my life were when i was on a team.. basketball, football, online videogame team.

feeling like you belong is unbeatable.

i know because when im not in a team, and i take on the loner persona again.. i feel like crap
deleted_user
deleted_user
This may also be because you were not only sexual abuse but physical and physiological abuse as well.

It is more common to feel this way if the abuse happened when you were a baby. To get over you may need to go back to the baby stage with your feelings. This is easy if you have a good therapist or if you are doing EMDR on your own.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It seems really common. I too have never felt that complete sense of belonging even with a group of people. I have always felt different.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I also agree with you. I often felt like I everyone was looking at me as the odd person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, totally normal, shyness is too, have learned to suppress feelings due to abuse. Hurts.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I always felt like I missed a couple chapters in the How TO
Book of life. Struggle with relationships/ friendships. Feel awkward and self conscious. You are not alone
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