It is hard to "imagine" sexual abuse. Someone who hasnt gone through it (me) obviously doesnt imagine "enough" My imagination will only let me go sofar. It's like I have experienced it from tv and gotten over it. Why can't you!! That is not a real question. just added as part of my ans. This is NOT how we are dealing with my daughter. We understand, I guess like your counselor, husband and BF. We get it. B4 K was abused I was aware of hubbys abuse and remember many times thinking that. But I also remember thinking that he had to face it first and deal with it. He still is getting no help. (Ks counselor is helping him too. Unintentionally....) I never shut him out (or up) about it. Sometimes I made him deal a bit because he has issues. Please... this is not meant to offend. this is my OPINION. Not meant to be fact, just a thought.

i don't think people want to think about someone they know being abused. it's not that they don't care, it's that they DO care and thinking about the person they care about being abused is hard for them.

i'm not sure if this is the case with everyone, but it is a possibility.

And some people don't care and do get tired of hearing about it and do have the "just get over it" mentality. Those are the ones to leave behind or cross off the frineds list. The ones who give a crap about us get it, anyone else can deal with their own issues and we don't need to pretend with them anymore either. Life is too short for games.

hi, i have come across this mentality right across the spectrum, from friends to people actually in the mental health itself, a person close to me(no names) thinks because i have been in the "system" for so long, i should have solved all my issues, and they think i am dysfunctional because i have not..

being abused growing up i have noticed that i do have a need for drama. but it is expressly w/o a doubt NOT IN ANY WAY related to the abuse i had growing up. I am just begining to understand this myself... but i believe i use it as a way of distracting myself from the real issues.
Or maybe i'm just so used to being abused that i seek drama to feel normal?
Or maybe my acceptance level is very high b/c of my abuse so i tend to surround myself with difficult situations?

but i do know that i am terified of ppl in my life knowing what i've been through....b/c i don't want them to think i'm a freak =/

**sorry...maybe i was unclear there

it is EXPRESSLY WITH OUT A DOUBT NOT what i do with the abuse i had growing up. i will avoid drama on that issue at almost all cost. b/c it is painful.

I hope that oneday if i explain this to ppl in my life it will help them to understand me

Sometimes i feel like I'm being a drama queen about it, but my counselor tells me that my reactions & emotions are normal & that i'm not overreacting. Thanks for everyones opinons & comments!

I don't think it's possible for people that have not been abused to understand the long term effects. The prolonged problems we deal with for years. They will never comprehend the atrocity. The reason there is a need for this site and others like it.