Absolutely! I have not only heard of it, but have experienced it myself and still sometimes do. It\'s a normal response, considering what we\'ve been through. One thing I do, to stay grounded, is I keep my eyes open ALL THE TIME! I focus on my husband\'s face and eyes and tell myself that I am with him because I WANT to be. It\'s tough, no matter how you look at it, but it can get better.
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Oh yes i have heard of this and also experience it. I have been married to the same man for 7 years and still go threw it.But I keep reminding myself who i am with and he is understanding when it comes to that.

thanks it s nice to know that i m at least not alone.

The hard part is when the flash back starts just from being touched and then to try to ignore it makes it worse.

Yes they seem to be unavoidable until you experience them and face them. My ex had long hair, I remember the first time he had his hair down while we were being intimate, I had a flashback and all I could see and feel was my sister's hair, even the smell of it. I lost it, sobbing, shoving him off me, it was bad to say the least. We both learned to avoid that. There are triggers that will pop up without warning, you have to face them and adapt. I guess thats the best advice I have for the beginning of it. The rest comes with time and the healing that occurs with time. hope71 and ma2my3babies said it best, remind yourself who you are with and that you choose to be with that person

I have heard of it, but havent experienced it. I do have a question, sorry I would have posted a new topic, but it wont let me. Well See my mom was sexually abused once too, but she acts like it never happened, or at least makes it seem like not a big deal, but, I cant get it to go away like that is it possible to?

I have experienced this for sure! It happened more frequently a few years ago, and has happened less and less frequently every year since. The most helpful thing for me once it really sets in is to turn the lights on, look around, maybe even play some music. Anything that gets me out of my head and focused on whats around me. It does get better. Sometimes I can play it off if I don't want to tell the guy, but if I have to say something, then I do because it is better for me.
It'll get better, just breathe.

kay_09, your Mom is still in denial, and is basically "faking" her way through life. The abuse she suffered affects her even if she doesn't admit that she remembers it, or whatever. It is much better to face it, deal with it, and learn how to live with it than to deny it ever happened.
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I have definatley experienced this. It has lessened quite a bit since I have been married for 9 years. It was much worse with an old boyfriend. You definately have to tell whoever you are with, because if you don't feel you can be honest about this with him than you shouldn't be in that vulnerable of a position with him.
#9- your mom is definately in denial- I'm wondering what kind of health problems she's dealing with as a result of her denial...

When I have a flashback while having sex,I start feeling like a little girl again.

Every time my husband wants to have sex I have a hard time breathing. I get scared, but know that he is not trying to hurt me and after it begins I feel better, but knowing it is just about to happen scares the hell out of me. Plus the flashbacks make me feel crazy, I can't ever seem to say no to sex or even to tell him to put on a condom. I thought I was doing better, but this seems to be a life long sentence we have received. You are not alone.

thank you to everyone who has made a post. i had no idea this many people know what i m talking about. thank you fot the advice nad the support. i appriciate it.

I have them too and I totally agree with the comment " You definately have to tell whoever you are with, because if you don't feel you can be honest about this with him than you shouldn't be in that vulnerable of a position with him."

As far as I am concerned if someone doesnt accept my emotions then they probably arent right for me.
Geri