
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Back in May, my boyfriend and I stayed with a friend of his, and i woke up in the night to find his hands down my trousers (while my boyfriend was right next to me) i told my boyfriend the next day, and he didn't react in the way i thought he would. He spoke to him about it a few weeks later and told him to apologise to me, but that was it.
Now, my boyfriend and I share a house with this man, and my boyfriend doesnt understand that i don't feel comfortable spending time with him, and I don't really feel comfortable with my boyfriend spending a lot of time with him. He admtted that if he had done that to his sister, he would have killed him... am i wrong to expect him to at least not get on with the guy anymore? am i wrong to expect him to not call him a friend anymore?
i feel completely worthless here, and if i mention anything about his friend, he gets extremely defensive and we end up having an argument... i just don't know what to do anymore...
Now, my boyfriend and I share a house with this man, and my boyfriend doesnt understand that i don't feel comfortable spending time with him, and I don't really feel comfortable with my boyfriend spending a lot of time with him. He admtted that if he had done that to his sister, he would have killed him... am i wrong to expect him to at least not get on with the guy anymore? am i wrong to expect him to not call him a friend anymore?
i feel completely worthless here, and if i mention anything about his friend, he gets extremely defensive and we end up having an argument... i just don't know what to do anymore...

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This situation does not sound too good. You have the right to be totally upset. you were violated and your boyfried did nothing about it. I would really question the reletionship. And why is this guy living with you two, what is their reletionship? I hope you can approach him with how you feel that your boundries were violated. Now not to feel safe in your own home? what is that guy goona do next?Is your boyfried going to protect you? I would look for some other plans and try to get out of that situation!

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I think you may want to think twice about staying with this guy especially if the other guy is living there also I would not trust your boyfriend when h does not even repsond to what happened.

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the problem being, i really do love him and i know he cares for me, but this guy just seems to be able to get away with everything with everyone... i just dont know how to deal with the feelings i have. i actually hate the guy. 100% hate him... and it sounds awful but i really want him to suffer in some way for what he has done... is that wrong? i feel so guilty, even though i've really done nothing wrong
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