
Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Hi,
Ive only recently started to work through and try to accept what happened in my childhood and like many of you have so many unanwsered questions. Some have no anwsers but I feel that others do and I need honest anwsers.
The thing is I feel responsible for what happened and I cant stop blaming myself. My cousin abused me when I was about 6 years old and it went on for quite a long time but what I cant live with is that he is the same age as me, it just doesnt feel right... other abusers are always older and that why they do it because they understand and have these sick sexual feelings but he was my age, he was a child too so why did it happen?
I feel sick inside when I think of this, I feel disgusting for allowing it to happen and hate myself. I dont understand why it happened. I think this is also why I have never been able to tell anybody because they would think its just as much my fault as his and Im scared of going to therapy because of how people would judge me. Please give me some honest advice I feel like I am as bad as those sick bastards, its making me crazy.
Dhalia xx
Ive only recently started to work through and try to accept what happened in my childhood and like many of you have so many unanwsered questions. Some have no anwsers but I feel that others do and I need honest anwsers.
The thing is I feel responsible for what happened and I cant stop blaming myself. My cousin abused me when I was about 6 years old and it went on for quite a long time but what I cant live with is that he is the same age as me, it just doesnt feel right... other abusers are always older and that why they do it because they understand and have these sick sexual feelings but he was my age, he was a child too so why did it happen?
I feel sick inside when I think of this, I feel disgusting for allowing it to happen and hate myself. I dont understand why it happened. I think this is also why I have never been able to tell anybody because they would think its just as much my fault as his and Im scared of going to therapy because of how people would judge me. Please give me some honest advice I feel like I am as bad as those sick bastards, its making me crazy.
Dhalia xx
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1) been being abused in his family
2) seen his parents or someone else doing these acts
i work with children grades K-3 and i was taken aback when a few children came up to me telling me what their parents do...or what their parents tell them.
these children mimic the acts of what they see...it's still wrong and someone should've corrected him.
i highly encourage you to seek a therapist...you have nothing to be ashamed of. blaming yourself is normal. i do it, too...
i'm here if you ever need to talk... =)
So, if you are crazy, then so am I and I really hope that isn't true.
Thanks for sharing.
You asked so i am going to give my 2 cents worth. A lot abusers are not older. I have no doubt that you were abused base on your post. It seems you are confused about whether you are some what responsible. I think you need to leave age out of the equation. it has no baring on this or not.
I know you feel it does but it really doesn't. I think you need to ask yourself some questions like who started it. It sounds like him to me. Did you want him doing what he did at the time. I doubt it. If I was responsible then why do i feel so abused and bad about it.
I think i you ask yourself a series of questions like that it may help to clear up some of your confusion and help you on the road to recovery.
I don't personally know of any surviors that didn't feel quilty or responsible for what happened. I think it is totally a result of the shame and all the rest that makes us feel quility.
feeling quilty and responsible is all part of the abuse. It is what it does to us. Realizing this was a hugh step forward for me.
But i am not a counselor and I think you should consider one. I am sorry that this sounds like advise but when someone asks I don't know how to word it. So please do not be offened - this is just my opinon and you really need to sort it out for youself and deside what is best for you.
it's very confusing
Before anyone goes and yels at me, I said MOST not ALL. And this is based on statistics.
You are not at fault for being abused at six years of age.
We are here for you.
He did start the abuse and even though something felt wrong, I didnt quite understand what was happeneing (does that sound stupid) and I still dont know how many times, when or why it stopped or everything that happened.
Your right again about him acting like a cool guy, his 19 now and has a good job and stuff. Nobosy has any idea what he is really like.
I remember that I used to wet myself when he was with me alone and I know that even though it happened I didnt want it to happen but I didnt really understand or know what to do.
Thanks again for all the support. Stay strong. xx
i have a very simillar situation! thank you for sharing!!!!