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abuser back in town

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I dont no what to do i find myself lost i just found out my abuser is back in town its been about 10 yrs i find myself stucck i dont even want to leave my house i live in a small town only 5000ppl here and i no if i go somewhere and i see him i will beat the shit out of him or mabye even something worse i cant sleep cant eat cant even think of anything to keep my mind off off it dont have a clue what to do can anyone help me
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Is there another nearby town you can go to just to relax? Like maybe go to another town's movie theatre and see a film or go to a cafe just to get out of there for a while when he's back. Sorry if these suggestions seem silly, but I'm here if you'd like to talk. Take care.
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Is there anyone else that knows what happened that lives around you that you can talk to? He needs to be exposed. Maybe you can make an anomunus call to the police and let tham know this guys a molester. The best way to get over my fears is to confront what terrifys me. I hope something good for you will come out of your molester being in the same town as you.
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yeah there are nearby towns both small tho no theaters or anything like that closest city is 3 hrs away and i dont get much time off work lately and yeah ppl do no what happened he was charged and sent to jail i dont want to tell to many ppl tho as i dont like the past coming up and ive been hearing he is moving here i hope it is not true
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Dang sorry mate thats a bad one cause if mine came back to town and I knew about I wouldnt even hide I would find him so that he never does anything in my town again
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well this is a tough one.
I think you should consider getting away for a week or so until you can sort out the anger. It would do you no good to make him a victem by beating him. I understand your anger. I have felt that way many times in the past. But I never acted on it. Don't let the anger be the controlling issue. Let the healing be your numbe one priority. Be pissed off at the guy but don't play into his hand by taking action outside of the law.

He may be back in town but that doesn't put him back in your life. I see some of my abusers all the time around town. It is not easy but don't let this guy have any more control over you.

do what you need to do for yourself and heal.

good. luck
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