Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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hi everyone. ok i have to get this off my chest. i know guys check out girls and its a normal thing to do. But any time i see a guy check out a younger girl it makes me so anxious and i feel like IM so ugly inside. i was sexually abused as a child so i guess i know where it comes from. but it is so hard to deal with. even when i see a teenager in skimpy clothes, i feel anxious like, go home and change! but i dont understand why i feel so fat, ugly and sooooo uncomfortable just my guy even glances at another girl. any help???????????
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I can totally understand what you're feeling. I get nervous and squirelly feeling when I see certain men looking at younger girls. I see it as a blessing for me, because I can see and more importatntly FEEL when I or someone around me isn't safe. If I'm right and you really feel what I do, you have a higher sense of who people are inside than most people do. I personally feel like it's a somewhat of a good thing.
And I also remember feeling like you do about your looks. I found myself feeling ugly and unattractive around other girls or if a boyfriend looked at them.
Through our abuse we were trained to feel ugly. But we're not. YOU ARE NOT!
And the fact that you're aware of your feelings about this, makes you that much closer to healing.
And your continuing path of healing, will make you look and feel so BEAUTIFUL.
I hope this helped. I'm always here to talk if you ever need anything.
You're in my prayers, friend. BIG hug and lots of love.
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