Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I was molested when i was two and just recently remembered that it had happened. I always had a feeling that it did, but i never let that stop me from having fun. The older i get the more i realize that it is stopping me now from being able to commit to a serious relationship. I dont want to be scared. My biggest dreams in life are to get married and have children, but im so afraid of me. Like deathly! I cant date them and have fun, but when it comes time to be sexual i freeze up and push them away until we break up. I dont know what to do and im starting to let it ruin my life. I was fine when i was 15 and remembered that it happened. I never had a problem with boyfriends then, all of a sudden four years later im terrified?
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I understand your perspective completely. I was abused by a woman, and my wife was the only one who loved me at a distance, I am very blessed. I am sure you have just as much potential to be blessed as well. Youre past will bug you yes. I advise you not to engage in masking, (drugs, perverse destructive behaviour, alchohol,ect) but face it and never lie to yourself.
shortie72
Abuse is something that other people think only lasts while it's happening, The only problem with that is WE know this is with us for a life time. How we deal with it can be a hard choice. 20 years on and i still haven't dealt with my issues totally. You WILL realise you dream one day. While this will be hard for you to deal with (the feelings involved)and the process will take time. It is better to deal with all the issues as soon as you are strong enough to deal with it. & Please know that you are not alone.
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I dealt all the wrong ways at first. i ended up drinking which led to more abuse, because guys would put stuff in my drink and then take advantage of me being passed out. (I had GHB at least twice in my drink). I never drank enough to pass out so i know it was the drugs they put in my drink. Plus i remember saying no and trying to fight, but didn't have enough strength to do so effectively. I would get into relationships and then find my way out of them some how, but most of the guys that i dated were the same type of people, abusers. The point is, the others are right. Deal with your feelings face to face. If you run, chances are you'll run into more problems. I had a friend over the past two years who was there for me and over those two years I told him the things that happened to me, slowly. During that time though, he also got to know who I was inside, not just what had happened to me. We fell in love and are now getting married. I finally learned to face my fears and feelings head on. And I have realized my dreams and the hope and chance I have to move forward in my life. Its not easy, and I am constantly reminded of the things that happened to me. However, I am now able to fight them with the support of my fiance. I pray that you will find healing too. Good luck!
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I'm noreally an upbeat person however it's come to my attention that a work colleague has been saying some nasty stuff and telling customers that I'm having quite a few affairs. I feel really anxious over these lies as I'm live and are associated with small communities. (Throw enough mud and some will stick).I could confront the person but then is that just going to give these rumours more...
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I'm normally an upbeat person however it's come to my attention that a work colleague has been saying some nasty stuff and telling customers that I'm having quite a few affairs. I feel really anxious over these lies as I'm live and are associated with small communities. (Throw enough mud and some will stick).I could confront the person but then is that just going to give these rumours more...