Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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My boyfriend asked me about this bad dream I had while he was at my house....I told him to just drop it, but being how he is, he didn't......
So to aviod hurting anyone I lied.....

I told him that I had been having some crazy dreams for some reason, and that I had no clue why......

he said ok....but he seemed like he knew I was lying
I dont know...I am afraid that if I tel him the truth he wont want to talk to me anymore and I really dont want that......
deleted_user
deleted_user
follow your heart in this matter. if the guilt is eating you up tell him the truth.
sadave46
sadave46
You have a right to your privacy. Your dream is your dream. It's not something you should feel compelled to share if you don't wish. Your boyfriend was being intrusive and not being respectful of your boundaries. I would advise doing what feels right to you and not let him violate your right to keep whatever you choose, private . He asked, you told him to drop it. It should have ended there. IMO you need not feel guilty for not sharing dreams.
deleted_user
deleted_user
When we have been abused we need all the support we can get. This is not going to go away, and if he is your partner, then maybe honesty might be the best answer. If he can't handle the truth, your painful past and your journey to healing then i would rethink who i was dating. Reverse the tables and put it all on him, what would you want as a lover/partner?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I told my boyfriend when we were a few years into our relationship and before we were going to be getting intimate.

He took it ok, and that was it. I wasn't symptomatic at the time.

I later married him, and at 32...I have PTSD and am having probs from my SA history.

It sucks...and yes, you need all the support you can get.

If he's a keeper, then maybe you should tell??....It's up to you to know when and if you divulge.
deleted_user
deleted_user
TOUGH QUESTIONS i SAY AS GREGORY SAID FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you feel like you need to share this with him, if he loves you he will understand and want to see you happy. If he doesn't then he wasn't worth your time anyway. My belief is that if you keep something secret from your "other half" then that's just more that keeps building and building and tearing you apart. I never keep anything from my boyfriend, at least I try not to and I think that it helps our relationship. There's already enough in the world going to try to tear you apart, secrets shouldn't be one of them. But that's only if you're really serious about him. If you don't feel the need to tell, then I also believe you shouldn't have to. I wish I could just give you a straight-up answer like "No he won't leave." or something like that, but I can't. All I can do is give you my opinion and hope that it helps. Anyway, if you ever need anything, just let me know. Stay strong and don't give up on the feelings in your heart.
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