Hey there, I hear your struggles. Is the attraction to men strong? Maybe not being intimate with males anymore would help alleviate your temptations to masturbate. If your attracted to the male anatomy this could possibly bring on urges toward your own anatomy. I too struggle with porn and masturbation. One of the best defenses for me is total avoidance of sexually stimulating things. Try also to write down the reasons why you want to give up porn. Then when your struggling try reading the lsit. When tempted, try to go do something that you won't be stimulated by. Goodluck on your battle.

Recognize that YOU ARE A SLAVE to this and keep a log of how many hours it steals from your life and the fun things you'd rather have been doing out in the world.

Recognize when the urge comes that it is the CMD: "Critical Moment of Decision". A split second time when you choose what you will do. It won't just take a minute because you know from experience that you've lost hours of your life.
Open all the blinds and let the light (and possibly neighbor's eyes) in. Can't do it then. Get outside and enjoy the world you have been missing.

Being accountable to yourself doesn't really work since you will rationalize your behavior to yourself. One option is to be accountable to Jesus through regular prayer (I know that sounds weird if you've never witnessed his work first-hand in your life).

Over masterbation also causes chronic fatigue (tired all the time), testicular pain and HAIR LOSS.

That's motivation. I don't want to be bald either!

Hey man, thanks for sharing. Don't feel alone, ever. I got into porn at the age of five, and only recently kicked the habit. I still masturbate, though. I was once bisexual, so I can relate to that.

I just want you to know, don't ever be ashamed to post here, as we understand.

Send me a pm if you wish to. I'd be glad to discuss anything with you. I rarely talk to men, but I feel you and I could relate to one another.

Anyways, take care and God bless you.

"Over masterbation also causes chronic fatigue (tired all the time), testicular pain and HAIR LOSS."

Any peer-reviewed scientific cites for that statement? No offence, but that sounds like the old 'don't do it, you'll go blind' religious arguement.

No offense taken, cindy!

First, I did not come here to judge anyone. I came here to communicate with others who have had the same problem, whether they be past or present problems.
You will see me mention things that helped me kick the addiction, just in case it may help others in the same way it helped me.

http://www.herballove.com/article.asp?art=275
http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/overmas/fatal.asp

Yes, that site does sell a supplement, but that does not invalidate the factual scientific data they present.

I am very cynical and analytical- it took this factual scientific data (in addition to accountability) to give me the final motivation to take control and release myself from a bondage I chose... like the the Rush song, Freewill: " If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice"!

I have some things to suggest but I need to know if you would be offended from a religious aspect of help. My 18 year old hasd been doing this since a freshman but no longer is. If you want to talk pm me.

I know his struggle and I understand bi sexual not from him but from my husband.

hopeisalive, I would like to see it.
Occasionally it re-emerges and becomes a struggle for a time, until I exterminate it yet again- so I'd like to see your tips from a religious perspective.

thanks

Oops- posted to fast! As for what I'd be interested in seeing, I meant the mb stuff, not the bi-sexual stuff.