Oh sweetie, was I JUST there! When I got married I SWORE I would never be one of "those" cheaters. That was just unthinkable. But I craved attention, as you. After not getting it for so long from my husband, I eventually did cheat. I'm SO proud of you for asking for help and/or advice before you did cheat. Because once you do, its a bad, dark, endless road. It eats you up inside and eventually you just grow numb, which is even worse.

I've asked myself that too.... "Why do I need this much attention? Is something wrong with me?". You know what I came to learn? That I had low self confidence. I didnt' think I did. But I cared so little about myself, I needed others to show me attention/flirt/love to make me feel better. And you know what? 5 years of doing this off and on..... IT DOESN'T SOLVE ANYTHING! You will have to look inside yourself and try and figure out why you need this attention. I'm not knocking or judging you. I'm just recently "clean" from all this and still learning every day. But talking with my counselor has helped me to figure out the answers to alot of questions.

I'm here if you need anything and I wish you the best in your journey. xoxo

Yes, flutterby, you have the exact question I ask myself too, and other people I know. What's wrong with me that I crave this attention? What's missing, why can't I fill this void? But what is the answer?

You got to sit down and tell him how you feel and what you want from him. Be honest, he won't give you the attention if he does not know how you feel. Communicate and give it a shot.