
Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
reading the discussion list is making me aroused.

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this is probably not where i wanted to start my new search into why i am always fantasizing about others when i have a reasonabally compliant partner at home. i say reasonabally because he isn't always in the mood and we do have our issues so sex is not always the answer.
so i came into this community to understand myself a bit better and gain some insight and instead, i am feeling physically aroused at just seeing the word "porn".
it's becoming normal for me to flirt with others and have sexualized conversations either online or, recently, by phone, and i feel a little out of control. which is why i'm exploring this previous designation of myself.
any thoughts? is this normal?
so i came into this community to understand myself a bit better and gain some insight and instead, i am feeling physically aroused at just seeing the word "porn".
it's becoming normal for me to flirt with others and have sexualized conversations either online or, recently, by phone, and i feel a little out of control. which is why i'm exploring this previous designation of myself.
any thoughts? is this normal?
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Is it PTSD, or guilt, or even a weakness? No one knows except you. You know yourself better than anyone else does. Look back at when you first started. You say that after your sister died you started doing this. In my opinion, you are using sex to numb your feelings out of fear and pain. No matter how many men you sleep with, it will not erase the pain. What you are doing is masking the pain and not dealing with it. Maybe you can't accept what your sister did. I don't know, but based on what you've written, I'd advise you to find a grief counselor and find an SLAA or an SAA group. Deal with her death first, and you might find that your sexual behavior subsides.
Just my opinion.
I can only suggest that what you are experiencing is the beginnings of an addiction. It doesn't sound like it has progressed too far yet, but if you cannot get control of it now, you could get in too deep quickly.
I would suggest that you sit down with your S.O> and discuss this. Get it out in the open and talk about it. Sometimes talking through it is best. Posting here is also helpful, as you can get different perspectives on it.
My addiction started just like yours. I started chatting and talking to men. Once you break down and actually meet a man, it is very difficult to stop. Try to get to an slaa meeting before that happens. I live close to you and I know there are several meetings in nj. I started after I couldn't take the mental abuse from my husband and the stress of having a son with add/ocd combined. My psychologist says it is out of anger. You are probably angry about your sister's death or, as robertbis said, trying to numb the pain. Please get help now before it gets harder.
and thank you to everyone that has relpied to this.
i'm kinda in the dark about this as well.
i was always afraid saa was a bad idea....i mean....i know ppl hook-up in AA even though they really shouldn't...
and i just don't want any temptations.
i don't have an internet related addiction....just sex in general =/ so i thought it was safer here? less tempting?
thank you for posting this!
so it's still cheating if your partner is cheating as well huh? I never really considered it as doing so untill you wrote "if he wasn't so _____ i wouldn't...."
i would feel safer in an all womens group for actual meetings...no matter what ppls orientation is
but is that possible? and isn't it kinda a good thing to learn how to deal with the opposite gender?
bleh.... *confused*
btw....if i start thinking the wrong sort of thoughts i start thinking about gross things like foot fungus and kitty litter. haha eewwies!
i just feel like i'm piecing things together,...working things out in my brain ya know?
i just realised that this addiction came about roughly around the same time i stopped "self-injury"....i just put my foot down and said no more.
problem there is i can't remember back far enough to see what started that one =/
i just want to say thank you to everyone here for speaking your minds....it's been a big help
i really wanted to see if i could stop... i don't know how to word things with out using triggers =/
let's just say...i couldn't go more then a couple days myself...and i'm in a stronger then usual mode lately
your not scum! pls message me next time you get urges...even if i'm not online i stop in oftain!
as they said on another community here "us ladies need to stick together"
i have a list of turn-offs i use. . . i never tried them when i was active with other people....but it helps some with triggers