Hi bones, and welcome.
I have been battling this for 28 years, and have now been clean for just over a year.
You can do it, my friend. Take it one day at a time. Work on staying clean for just today, and tomorrow just worry about tomorrow.
When the urge to look comes, find something to redirect your mind on to. Read a book, go for a walk, go to the gym, anything to get your mind off of porn and masturbating.
Start a journal and write down all of your thoughts, especially when the urge to "misbehave" comes along. Later, go back and read over it. You'll soon see a pattern develop that will help you avoid certain triggers and situations. From that you can start to work towards dealing with it as soon as it happens.
Find a local support group to participate in, or an online accountability group. If you're interested, I can offer the addresses to several group sites.

Thank you for the great advice Robert. I will take your advice and apply it to my life. If you could give me addresses to group sites, that would be great.

Sure thing.
The one site that really helped me was Higher-Calling
(www.higher-calling.com)
There is also Recovery Nation
(www.recoverynation.com)
and another site,Proven Men
(www.provenmen.org)

Also checkout the local and national sites for Sexaholics Anonymous and Sex Addicts Anonymous.

If I can help in any way, please let me know.

I know EXACTLY how you feel.

For me the two most important things were talking to somebody about my problem, and finding tasks to help me break away from my cycle of addiction.

We all have the strength to get through these problems, together we're stronger still.

If you feel comfortable with it, keep us up to date on how you're doing, and look back over your old posts from time to time to see how you've progressed.

You can do it :)

That is great advice Robert. I am struggling with this addiction as well, and it is affecting my marriage. I don't want that to continue, obviously. I think I too will try and use your advice, and see how it works. I love my wife with all my heart, and I'm sick of hurting her.

I feel much like you!

Funny, I also keep my porn use a secret from my husband. He might actually enjoy using it with me, but I just want it to be my secret for some strange reason.

If you really want to stop go to:
www.pureonline.com with Joe Dallas and do it. My husband did the program, very good. It has been 17 months and he is clean- wants nothing to do w/ porn.
He now loves and appreciates me so much more.

You could also try sa.org If that fits, there are s/a meetings that work for a lot of people. My husband has been attending for 4 years and has been very successful in recovery. Sexual addiction frequently begins with porn and escalates when it reaches the point that porn is not enough, then chatting online and masturbating is not enough, then meeting people online, then in person is not enough, then multiple people, and so on. Finding the means for recovery before it escalates to that point can save relationships and even lives. Good luck.

same thing is happening to me bones

Hmmm...a reply was removed...my comment about my porn use makes no sense out of context. Oh, well. Anyone know why 'Storminadcup's comment was removed?

I'm new to this group and I have the same problem My addiction comes and goes. I'll go for months sometimes,and then cycle back up. It seems that everytime I start back up it gets worse than the last cycle. Why is this?

I just joined here too, like two minutes ago, I agree with you bones but here is my problem I kinda dont want to stop, I feel its wrong, but it is very stimulating. I dont know.....Id appreciate someone messaging me on here, since my email address isn't working...I dont mean to take your help bones..