Although this is a little strong...but you might want to hold off on the marriage until this is sorted out...that said, you're right what addict wouldn't say that? I know I did! And I believed it...that's the crazy part. I genuinely believed she was blowing things out of proportion. Trust me, your not.... if what you describe is accurate. He certainly sounds like someone who is either a SA or well on his way. Any guy that makes their need to look at "porn" more important than their relationship has a problem by definition. As a SA that had a big problem with porn, I think you have good reason to be concerned. First this has nothing to do with you, nothing. Two, you can't stop him. It's all up to him and him alone. What you CAN do is decide what you're willing to allow into your life and your home. You must set your limits as to what you'll accept...set YOUR limits and then enforce them. You're not going to nag or guilt trip him into changing his behavior. Don't argue, just set limits. He then must make his choice. Sadly for so many of us addicts...we have to experience great pain before we'll begin to look at our behavior. Don't waste your time trying to get him to change...it's futile. Educate yourself on this insidious addiction. Arm yourself with knowledge and then set your boundaries. The rest is up to him...hope this helps

From someone that has used the same arguments as your husband-to-be...YOU ARE 100% CORRECT.
Like any addiction (and IT IS AN ADDICTION!!)the person doing it sees it AS NORMAL..but is not. If you can, hold off and tell him is either PORNO OR YOU..and stick to his answer (it may be painful)GOOD LUCK AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND HELP U IN THIS LIFETIME DECISION

this website helped me SO much with relationships stuff. How to break things down/sort them out for myself.

http://youarenotcrazy.com/

i'm sorry you guy's are having these troubles =/
another helpful site i found was

http://www.recoverynation.com/

Only the two of you can decide what works and is right for your relationship. But i do think it seems like you are having a problem with this. I was in a similar situation myself,...fiance was running his own computer buisness,....so he had a lot of trouble with his addiction. Knowing what i do now, i would hold off on a wedding and seek couples counciling.
hope this is helpful

Really, there is no "normal" porn usage for an addict. It's like expecting an alcoholic to drink only one beer when there's a whole case waiting.
I've been a love and sex addict my whole adult life and recovering for 8 years. This particular addiction is REALLY hard to get a handle on because you can't just quit, like alcoholics try to do. People strive for a "healthy" sexual life with their partner.
So, my advice to you is to encourage him to attend SAA meetings (like Alcoholics Anonymous) in your area. If you're devoted to him, find out if there's a support group for you, too. (Often times, there are, just like Al-Anon.)
If he refuses to get help in a support group, reconsider your devotion to him. I promise that addiction gets much worse before it gets better if the addict is unwilling to get help. Good luck to you.

I can't add much to what the others have said. In the end, you have to decide what is best for you. You can help him, but only if he is willing to admit that he has a problem. He has to be willing to quit, and if you push too hard, it can backfire.
I do believe in confronting him with this and how it makes you feel. From what you've described, he has a serious addiction and needs help, in some form. If he's willing to get it, great. If not, then you have some hard decisions to make. Until it's dealt with, I would not recommend marriage at all.
If I can help in any way, please let me know. I am a recovering addict 1 year clean after 28 years of porn and sex addiction, so I understand this addiction well. My wife is also on this site (diannebishop) and would be glad to talk with you about it and what she has been through with my SA.

Hallow, Any porn use is negative! Its going to end up being the end of your marriage. Its such a hurtful thing that you'll end up miserable. Porn addiction get worse the more they look. The fantasy has to keep growing and growing. Lets face it after looking at a certain thing for so long it looses it spark and he'll have to move onto something more explicit. Like softcore pics to movies to real hard core movies. Chat, phone sex, Strip clubs, to call girls. (= possibly you ending up with a STD or AIDS) It only grows if left alone. I know we'd all like to fix our significant other but they have to want to make the change for anything to work. Maybe share with him that a man that uses porn is number 1 cheating on you and eventually he will be so desensitized that he will no longer be able to be turned on by you, porn, or himself. IT! Just stops working. My advice is to have him make a choice. Don;t fall for him saying I choose you and I won't do it ever again! NO! If he chooses you, you have to tell him that he has to seek out counseling before you will marry him. Also continue after. Maybe even go as a couple. You are worth soo much more! So if he can't make the change no matter how hard this is... He is not the one for you. True Love is selfless. I so know your pain! Just know that I'm here along with a bunch of other great ppl. Willing to talk anytime you want!

WOW any porn use even joint use mild soft core Hey PURITANS RULE well is Thanksgiving.

Don't get married until you understand the whole picture on his addiction, and until and unless he admits he has a problem and makes significant progress on it. Even then, know that it is something that will be part of your life forever.
Also, you did not define questionable. But if it is child porn, you may also be liable for prosecution if materials are found where you live.