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Hi all-I am new here so I hope this topic applies to this site. I have been married (happliy) for 10 years. My husband informed me about 5 yrs ago he prefers to wear womens underwear. I have tried to accept this but cannot. I fear that this is not just 1 little fetish and there may be more confessions in the future. He denies that its any more then just a "quirk" and understands that I can't accept it. I am not a prude in anyway, but I think this is so freaky. Need to know if there are any hetrosexual men out there that have this quirk or any women dealing with this with their husbands. I would love to be assured that it's not a big deal, but other sites I have been on just show this issue in such a depravied way.
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welcome.

i don't feel like i have the experience to comment here =/ sorry

but i do think there might be more to it for some reason.

I know that there are a lot of very wise peeps here who will be able to give you better advise though. You've come to a good place.
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thanks for your reply-anyone else out there have advice?
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I used to post on porn sites, so I talked to alot and all kinds of people. I have heard of many who like doing this. I didn't know them more than being "online friends", but they seemed to be regular people that did just have this quirk. At least that was my experience with those people. If you've known for 5 years, and everything else seems to be okay in that area, I would just chalk it up to a "quirk" and leave it at that. Hope you find your answers. And welcome!
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I think is is normal behavior and that he may be submissive in his sexuality and dressing up in woman's clothes or what ever is a means to be submissive. What a great opportunity for you to embrace his fetish by helping pick out outfits. That would certainly strengthen your relationship and marriage by being alittle more open.
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I would seek to find out where this idea comes from in his mind. Some men just like the feel of the fabric on their genitals. Others are endulging in the small, fantisizing such a greater thought prosess than they really want to talk about. The don't want to go there because they feel shame about it, and/or feel you may leave them because of it.
Some men do it because they want to be close to their women. I know women who wear men's clothing so they can feel their men around them. It may be the same here. Good Question tho, Love him.
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