Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
I feel really insecure. I am with a man I love, he is wonderful, but I am having a hard time getting over knowing how much porn he watches. It's on his ipod. I feel like whenever I am out and he's home alone, that's all he does. He likes looking at 19 year olds stripping, in the shower. etc. I really truly don't feel like I can compete with that. I want to talk to him about it, but whenever I try I come across as lame and prude. Then he just hides it. Is this my issue or his? I seriously think I need counceling I get myself so worked up. As much as I hear it has nothing to do with me, I really think that it does. Even when we have sex I think that he must be thinking of someone else. I am so sad....
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
A porn addiction isn't anything to do with you. It has nothing to do with your beauty, your body, or your sexual prowess.
Unfortunately within a relationship its hard not to personalise it. Alot of guys can look at porn casually and not have a problem. But also alot can become addicted. It feels good, so if every thing else in your life is not great, an addict will fall into porn as an escape from reality. Instead of dealing with there problems.
I think it would really help you to understand more, and help you approach him more easily if you educated yourself a bit on this addiction. There are many great books available to help. I got all mine off amazon.com
Out of The Shadows By Patrick Carnes MD.
Treating Pornography Addiction By Dr Kevin B Skinner.
Confonting Your Spouse's Pornography Problem By Rory Reid & Dan Gray.
I promise any of these will help you. All the best.
As TrinaOz said, porn addiction has nothing to do with how attractive you are. It is more about some insecurity or feeling deep inside them.
I wish you all the best. xx