When I was 13 years old I thought that I was completely ready to have sex. I didn't end up having it until recently, & I'm 16. I'm still regretting it. Sex isn't something that you should do just for the fun of it...at least not at your age. I looked at it as no big deal, but it actually does get a lot of emotions involved. Especially when it's your first time. Your still young, you should enjoy what you left have of your innocence & childhood as much as you can. =)

I so agree with Tara. There is no way for you to know this, but in this country, childhood is one of those things that has become more precious and rare. Your body is still changing and growing. Sex is something that will alsways be possible, but being a young woman who is learning about herself, enjoying the world without the emotional tangle that sex brings is something that I just cannot recommend. This is s big decision and at your age, I feel that it is just too soon. Please think very hard about this, you have so much time, take all of it to stay a girl. Good Luck- Sea

NO OK JUST NO

I honestley think being a young person sucks,you get treated like a little kid,you have no rights, and everyone thats older acts like there so much better than you and they think that I'm just a little shit head dumb ass that knows nothing.As far as sex goes I think it all depends on the person,some people are ready sooner than others and some are not,but thats ok.It's something you should not rush, even though personaly I'm sick as hell of being a virgin,but I am alot more mature than most other people my age.I started thinking about sex when I was probaly 12 and have liked girls since probaly 10,but as I said whats right for one person is not always right for another.

There is a lot more to sex than you can realize until you do it. Afterwards you will probably have a lot of intense feelings that may be hard to deal with. This is why people say to wait, and why people who have done it and think it was too soon for them, tell you to wait. It's not some kind of fun rollercoaster ride that they are trying to keep for themselves. It's a very, very intimate act, and once you do it you cannot take it back. It will touch you in a very deep way which includes your mind and your heart and your body. You will always remember the first time. Make it something very meaningful and something you are totally ready for, your whole being, not just physically.
PS I think you are on the wrong discussion group.

no

no!

i regret starting at age 15. All of my friends that have the best boyfriends, are the ones that are waiting for when they are done with college!

Hi again-

This is general and not meant just to the young lady who posts here. It has me thinking and I want to post my general thoughts about her question.

I feel strongly that you and some of the other teens here need to be in the Discussion groups dealing with Teen Sex issues. I have no problem with you checking here for advice sometimes. And while I know some of you will get angry because we are "treating you like kids", you won't know till later in your life what a benefit it IS to be treated like a kid when you are a kid. Many people here will tell you the horrors of being treated like an adult when you are a child or teen.

And to Robert's point on another thread, if you want and ask for advice, the way to receive it is to say thanks, I will think about it. The wave of rage and defensiveness we usually get is exactly what we are all talking about. You are teens, with feelings and hormones all over the place. In my opinion, it is just too soon for you to be having sex. You will think about it, that is normal. But sex is complicated, it creates feelings and consequences that are very hard to deal with at your age. There is So much time to go the sex route. Do yourself a favor and wait it out. You will be so happy you did.

I also caution you about believeing anything you are reading in magazines and certainly in any porn. At your age, you need to be learning what REAL people look like and what real feelings are. Porn and the hype of celebrity stuff is all made up. It is like watching the Macy's parade and believing that we can all float. It is NOT real, but at your age, you start thinking it is. And then you can't believe when you or others dont look or act the same way. To quote Cindy Crawford, " Even I do not look like CINDY CRAWFORD in the morning".

I also have to say that I think that the responsible adults on this site need to dissuade the provocative pictures, comments and come ons that some of these kids are putting out there. It triggers some and it is very harmful to these kids to think this is the way to get attention.

There are few here who would say that toying with a kid in any way is acceptable and to me, that includes encouraging these more inappropriate posts, pictures posted and comments.

Just my opinion. I am a big advocate for childhood actually being childhood again in this country-
Sea

Nice post seaside

The fact is research is showing that the brain has not fully developed until late teens for most people and the part that is still developing is the part that deals with being able to fully appreciate and understand the consequences of ones behavior and actions. The decision to have "sex" is a huge decision with many, many potential consequences. I would think that no one should be making such a big step until they can fully understand the significance. The irony here is...I'd guess the vast majority of teens would argue that they "do" fully understand and grasp the all the ramifications but brain research suggests otherwise....I too agree that this question is better suited for another forum. I am encouraged that everyone who posted a response regardless of age...all thought it better to wait.

Go Sea!

I so agree with what everone said. We all thought we were grown up in our teens. I have ssen the same research Sad talks about. Turns out that the combo of growth hornones with brain development and body changes actually is real. I wish I had known that.

I am a man and look, it is tempting to tke th ejail bait here. But Sea is right.

We, all of us who KNOW, need to tell the male and fenale teens and kids here to stay kids.

G

Hear, hear.

no. you certainly dont have to have sex at a young age but if you feel you have to you still should you shouldnt be talked into it. have sex when your ready

No! not at all... thats too young... you need to save it for when u get a little older and u fall in love and u relize what love is.. if u do it now word will get out too soon and ull be known as bad things...

No, i think you should wait till the right moment. you should share ot woth someone special. wait till you are older too.

I just recently lost my virginity and that's only cause it was to my fiance'.... I don't think anyone shouldn't think they need to have sex at 13..... save it for someone who will be with you longer then it takes to do you...