Depends, how much of your life do YOU feel it interferes with? Obviously if you can't stop doing something, you're addicted. But judging by your title " But I like it" you're not even trying to stop. So my next question is, why are you here? The people on this board are trying/wanting to stop. No one's here to talk about their sex addiction and liking it. Pardon me if I AM incorrect but I don't feel I am by your title.

And what's with the list of accomplishments? Do you feel that having a nice home, working and never missing a payment is justification for your actions??

the question was am i a sex addict????
i didnt expect to be lectured by some self righteous spook hiding behind his own failures

Go to SA.org and take the test

Analyst,
BeforeDis has a point and there is no reason to namecall here. If you come asking a question and someone is nice enough to try to respond, hostility is uncalled-for. And that was a gut punch. Shame on you.
I think you answered the questions anyway - obviously you think that since you pay the bills, you have the right to do whatever you want, whether or not your wife has a problem with it. I don't think that most women accept that their husband will go to prostitutes. Do you care what she, or anyone else, thinks about the topic, if they don't agree with you?

I dk are you?

Analyst,
Could be...it depends on what you think. You say you like it, but is it controlling your life?
You can't blame your wife, kids, or anyone else for your actions. That's a copout. You and you alone are responsible for what you do. No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to look at porn or "wank".
You are "choosing" to do it.
Most everyone loves sex, and many people have nice cars and homes. What does that have to do with being addicted to porn?
You get frustrated when your wife "rations" sex......well, is it rationed, or do you just want it more than her? Not everyone has a high sex drive. Maybe she just needs it less than you.
More info, less blaming others would help us understand what you are going through. Your response to BeforeD indicates that you are trying to start something and not really interested in any help. What is it you are looking for?

Analyst

I am going to assume you want a real response. From what you wrote in your main post, I have no idea if you are an addict. But I think you know.

What does come across to me is an incredible disregard for women in general. And even though I love sex, there is zero chance any man of mine who is seeing a pro (and yes, we always always know. And it is NOT ok, no matter how big the house or anything else is); there would be zero sex with me if he is seeing anyone on the side. Women's bodies work best when we are cherished/respected and I am betting your wife hasn't felt cherished or respected in a really long time.

You may be a great guy who just doesn't realize how you come across. So, addict or not, I think there are some other things to be thinking about.

I think you need to be talking about your attitude toward women and how it got that way. Maybe it was something you were taught, I don't know. What I do know is that you are not going to have any healthy relationships with women with the way you regard them.

There are a lot of peole here who know a lot about all these issues. I strongly urge you to reach out to them, perhaps privately at first, and get some input.

I have a long road to go, but I find the people here to be very very helpful.

I wish you the best-
Sea

Ok, so now I am confused. I read your post and responded. In looking back at my messages today, I read your profile and now I see that it says you are female. What's going on? Most of us are using aliases here, but I just don't get this. What gives?

Sea

First of all, I'm a woman. Secondly, I'm not even a sex addict, but my H is. Spook? You're kidding right? I don't even think I need to emphasize on this, but again, I said if I'm getting the WRONG impression, I apologize, but the way you wrote it, makes it seem like you're just tiddily winkin' around on this discussion group. And again, I could be wrong.

And even if I was a "failure" to sex addiction...what on earth would that make you? A winner in it?

You're entire demeanor makes and takes SA to be some kind of joke. I HATE that more than anything. Having a complete disregard and lack of MORALS is not to be confused with sexual addiction.

The question is, are you a sex addict? Does it truly matter to you?? Because everything you listed seemed to be bragging rights to you and not a means for wanting help.

There is nothing more that makes me want to just *insert random violent act here* someone who pops up and silently humiliates or disrespects what sexual addiction is REALLY all about by saying things like you have listed, which shows you have no real interest in whether or not you have a real problem because you are reasoning and justifying your careless behaviors and then saying..I like it.
You like it.
flat out.
Nothing will change when you like it, so until you don't like it and experience some hardcore consequences, don't bother. Because nothing will work.

So please, feel free to indulge me with whatever blasphemous name calling you can ponder up in the next 15 minutes, because I'll be living happy and healthy regardless. What about you?