Hey everyone, I have been really struggling these past few days. My daughter Kristen is 5 and is just beginning treatment for SPD. I am a single mom, I collect SSDI at the moment for some psychiatric problems. Kristen's father (Franny) and I have a wonderful relationship, he is there anytime I need him for anything, and has been mostly supportive through Kristen's problems. He lives with his 2 grown-up daughters and his ex-wife who is their mother. He also has a 7 year old boy from a previous relationship. When Kristen goes to his house on the weekends, if he is working, the girls and his ex care for her, bring her to church. etc.. Kristen is touch and go with going to Dad's house. Sometimes she goes easily and other times she tells me she doesn't want to go. I don't make her go when this happens. Well, the ex-wife has voiced her opinion loudly when this happens because she tells me I let her get away with everything, and I let her walk all over me. She also says Kristen only has these sensory problems because I let her behave that way. They took Kristen over night last night to see the fireworks and I warned them ahead of time that she is afraid so I packed her ear muff things she wears when I vacuum around the house and the ex-wife actually told her she was silly for needing them. They also wanted to keep her for a full week next week because it Vacation Bible Camp at their church and while I am ok with that I mentioned that Kristen goes to karate 2 days a week and is due to begin therapy this coming week too. She asks me "Well, she doesn't do any of that stuff here, do they know she's fine here?" and then she tells Kristen they are going to keep her for week, and Kristen agreed at the time, but today is a different story. Kristen has been crying to me today and just tonight says "mom, I'm not ready to be without you yet" and then cries. She also told me that she is sad when she is at dad's because she misses me but she is too afraid to tell anyone because she thinks she'll get in trouble. It also gets thrown in my face by the ex-wife that Kristen doesn't pee the bed there like she does at my house. Kristen tells me that if she wets her pull-up there she'll get in trouble. So, after all this she doesn't want to go next week, she cries anytime I ask her. She now doesn't even want to go over night, or even to bible camp next week. I called her father to tell him what was happening, he says "Fine keep her" and hangs up on me. I just don't know what to do or think anymore all I know is Kristen was upset tonight so I told her she didn't have to spend the week at Dad's. Did I just give in? am I just letting her get her way? She has never been away from me for more than 2 days before and when I brought this up to her dad, her just got mad. I tell him all the time you have to prepare her for this not just throw her in. Ugh... I am tired.
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