Well hello I just joined this site and yes I admit to being a POFer too...I am discouraged and taking a break from that site. I am happy to find this group and it's wonderful how open you all are. l am still trying to figure out exactly what type of relationship I want. I am separated but we are divorcing..I left a year ago. It hasnt been that long but one does get used to having another adult in the house. I have my kids with me still and that will keep me busy for a couple more years. Ahhh but it would be nice to find love again...even at my age. Hugs to y'all.