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Hey everyone!
I decided to write my argumentative research essay on SI.
If you want, I have some questions. (I pick, but want to know more about cutting/burning and other forms of SI.)
If you're comfortable, I would appreciate all the information I can get for data/research.
I am not using any names or personal information, just the stories you wish to share or questions answered!
Thank you all for your help!!!
ps- I do not judge anyone, and am pro-homosexuality, so don't worry about that, also, if you would rather message answers/stories to me, I am absolutely ok with that, just keep the same subkect line so I don't make any confusion! I am also here if you need any advice/comforting words!!!!! Once again, thank you!
1. Male/Female + Age + State (geographical purposes only)
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules?
4. Any siblings? If so, how many?
5. Are you parents divorced?
6. How would you describe your personality?
6b. Are you a perfectionist?
6c. Introvert/extrovert?
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet?
7. Any piercings/tattoos?
7b. Piercings- How many/where?
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind?
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?)
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them?
8. Why do you SI?
9. Where?
10. What form(s)?
11. What do you feel when you do?
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?
13. Are you ashamed of scars?
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV?
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers?
16. Do you want help?
17. Are you seeking help?
If there is anything else you find important and wish to share, I would greatly appreciate it!!!!!
Thank you so much, and feel free to message your answers if this is too personal for everyone to see!!!!!
I decided to write my argumentative research essay on SI.
If you want, I have some questions. (I pick, but want to know more about cutting/burning and other forms of SI.)
If you're comfortable, I would appreciate all the information I can get for data/research.
I am not using any names or personal information, just the stories you wish to share or questions answered!
Thank you all for your help!!!
ps- I do not judge anyone, and am pro-homosexuality, so don't worry about that, also, if you would rather message answers/stories to me, I am absolutely ok with that, just keep the same subkect line so I don't make any confusion! I am also here if you need any advice/comforting words!!!!! Once again, thank you!
1. Male/Female + Age + State (geographical purposes only)
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules?
4. Any siblings? If so, how many?
5. Are you parents divorced?
6. How would you describe your personality?
6b. Are you a perfectionist?
6c. Introvert/extrovert?
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet?
7. Any piercings/tattoos?
7b. Piercings- How many/where?
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind?
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?)
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them?
8. Why do you SI?
9. Where?
10. What form(s)?
11. What do you feel when you do?
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?
13. Are you ashamed of scars?
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV?
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers?
16. Do you want help?
17. Are you seeking help?
If there is anything else you find important and wish to share, I would greatly appreciate it!!!!!
Thank you so much, and feel free to message your answers if this is too personal for everyone to see!!!!!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
18 How old were you when you started?
19. How long have you been doing SI?
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions?
i SIed for around 6 months
yea nuthing worked the way SI did
female, 14, VA
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
bicurious
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
sometimes. Like if some one trashes gay people, it upsets me and has caused me to SI
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?
sometimes
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
no, but I'm talking to an amazing girl right now. I may end up dating her.
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules? I feel that we both make them equally.
4. Any siblings? If so, how many?
1, I have a sister.
5. Are you parents divorced?
No, but they should be.
6. How would you describe your personality?
Loud, bright, friendly, bubbly, happy (which is most often fake)
6b. Are you a perfectionist?
yes. I'm also pressured by my parents to succeed.
6c. Introvert/extrovert?
introvert
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet?
I think I'm more outgoing than shy, but I can be shy around strangers. I'm more of a quiet person... but I can be loud around friends.
7. Any piercings/tattoos? yes
7b. Piercings- How many/where? ears just one hole in each ear. lol
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind? none, but I do want them
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?)n/a
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them? I would be proud if I had them lol.
8. Why do you SI? To deal with overwhelming emotions.
9. Where? arms, legs, thighs, ankles, stomach, pretty much all over (I've even cut inbetween my toes in an attempt to hide it)
10. What form(s)? cutting, burning, salt and ice
11. What do you feel when you do? pain. sometimes I don't feel everything. Everything is suprisingly calm. Sometimes I'll even feel happy
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?
Most of the times I like it. It's more hate when I'm finished.
13. Are you ashamed of scars?
yes.Well, it depends on who I'm around. With some people I don't care.
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV? Yes. I spend a lot of time on the computer and I watch at least an hour of tv
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers? I talk mainly online with friends and strangers. Talking helps me.
16. Do you want help? yes
17. Are you seeking help? no my parents won't get me any.
18 How old were you when you started? 10
19. How long have you been doing SI? 4 years
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions? yes I've tired alternatives but for the most part they don't really help.
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)bisexual
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI? not really
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?not really
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?yes i have a boyfriend
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules? i kinda sorta do both
4. Any siblings? If so, how many? none
5. Are you parents divorced?thier getting divorced right now
6. How would you describe your personality? its great with some flawes
6b. Are you a perfectionist?no
6c. Introvert/extrovert? i dunno
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? bothLoud/quiet? both
7. Any piercings/tattoos? piercings
7b. Piercings- How many/where? 12 eyebrow, bellybutton, ears
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind? none
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?) just felt like it
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them? i dont talk bout them
8. Why do you SI? to help me survive pretty much
9. Where? my thighs
10. What form(s)? cutting
11. What do you feel when you do?i feel amazing
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do? i love the feeling.. i hate that i do it
13. Are you ashamed of scars? sometimes
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV? computer and tv yeah
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers? online is easier..
16. Do you want help? sometimes
17. Are you seeking help? yea but they dont know im cutting again
18 How old were you when you started? i was in 7th grade.. im now in 11th grade
19. How long have you been doing SI? 4 years
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions? not really
Female/15/Canada, Ottawa
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
Bi (but question weather or not I am gay)
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
No
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have
something in your control?
What do you mean by control
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
Not at the moment I had I girlfriend not to long ago
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules?
follow to an extent
4. Any siblings? If so, how many?
1 brother
5. Are you parents divorced?
Nope
6. How would you describe your personality?
Depressed, stereotypical emo
6b. Are you a perfectionist?
No
6c. Introvert/extrovert?
Extroverted
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet?
Outgoing when I want to be
7. Any piercing/tattoos?
Ya
7b. Piercing- How many/where?
1 in each ear
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind?
none but I want some
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or
other emotions?)
when I get mine they are going to represent things I have gone through
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them?
have none
8. Why do you SI?
to feel something other then despair
9. Where?
My room
10. What form(s)?
cutting
11. What do you feel when you do?
pain, relief
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?
like it, but hate myself for doing it
13. Are you ashamed of scars?
Ya
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV?
Sadly yes XD
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers?
in person
16. Do you want help?
parents are sending my but not for the SI, they dont know about that
17. Are you seeking help?
No but I need it
18 How old were you when you started?
13
19. How long have you been doing SI?
2 years
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions?
Ya but it didnt work
2. Straight
2b. Nope.
2c.Nope.
3. Nope.
3b. Nope.
4. 2 brothers and 1 half sister
5. Nope
6. Humorous
6b. Absaloutely!
6d. Shy, and quiet
7. Pierced ears.
7c. None
7d. N/A
7e. N/A
8. Release of emotions, and a level of comfort.
9. Wrists.
10. Cutting.
11. I dont feel. I dissociate durring the process.
12. I love and am addicted to the feeling.
13. Sometimes. Most of the time, they remind me of a journey and remind me of where Ive been.
14. Nope.
15. I prefer talking over the internet. I can talk easier because I am not pressured by the person standing right in front of me.
16. Yes I want help.
17. Yes I am seeking help.
2. Strraight
3.no
3b. follow the rules
4. 4 sisters and one brother
5. no
6. compassionate
6b. yes
6c. Introvert
6d. shy /quiet?
7. piercings
7b. Piercings- 2 in one ear, three in the other
7c. no Tattoos-
7d.
7e.
8. to comfort myself
9. hands, feet, thighs
10.picking, scratching, cutting with scissors, tweezers, pins, needles
11. relief
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?both
13. Are you ashamed of scars?yes
14. no
15. I like talking about my problems over the phone with friends and online with strangers?
16.?yes
17. yes
18. 14
19. 32 years
20. yes
Female 13 New Zealand
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
Straight
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
Not particularly
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?
No
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
Nope, never
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules?
I like to make my own but feel forced to follow
4. Any siblings? If so, how many? I have 2 brothers, 17 and 3
5. Are you parents divorced? No
6. How would you describe your personality? Observant
6b. Are you a perfectionist? When I have the time
6c. Introvert/extrovert? Introvert
6d. Are you shy/outgoing?Shy in social situations but able to confidently public speak etc
Loud/quiet? Quiet in groups
7. Any piercings/tattoos? Yes
7b. Piercings- How many/where? 1 in each ear
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind? I want one!!
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?)
Just to show im growing up
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them? Yeah :D
8. Why do you SI? Usually stress or anger (toward myself, not others)
9. Where? Always in my bedroom although I have punched myself if Im alone at school
10. What form(s)? Scratching skin off with nails, pins, punching and once a razor
11. What do you feel when you do? Just a huge release but guilt afterward
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do? Hate myself more but get addicted to the release
13. Are you ashamed of scars? Very, very
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV? Not often
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers? I talk to m friend in person or over the phone. I also can tell strangers online
16. Do you want help? Yes
17. Are you seeking help? Yes
18 How old were you when you started? 13
19. How long have you been doing SI? about 7 months ago
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions? I try poetry and it usually helps.
-How would you describe your relationship with your family?
-Do you like how you look? Why/why not
-Job/Student?
-On average, how much sunlight do you get a day?
-Do you have other issues (ie. depression, self-esteem issues, illnesses etc.)
THANKS EVERYONE!
2. Heterosexual
2b.No
2c. Not about my sexuality, but about certain events.
3. No
3b. I follow general societal rules but make my own when I am at home.
4. Yes, one brother
5. They divorced when I was six months old.
6. Shy, logical, calm, collected
7. Yes, i have three
7b. Only my ears are pierced.
7c. One on each ankle and one on my hand between my first finger and thumb. One is an ankle bracelet, the other is my initials and the last (on my hand) in a rose.
7d. I got them when I was 17 so I think I did it because I thought it was cool.
7e. I sort forget about them, so I dont usually tell people about them.
8. To take control of my out of control feelings.
9. On my left arm, just below my elbow (on the top)
10. I use a knife
11. I feel satisfaction and relief. Afterwards, I go numb.
12. I dont like it. I am in a self-destruct/self-hatred mode when I do it.
13. Not yet.
14. Yes, I spend at least 3 hours a day on the computer.
15. I dont like talking about it at all, but I would rather tell someone online than in person, I still havent told anyone that I am close to about it.
16. Yes
17. Yes
19. Ive only done it twice in the past two weeks.
20. I dissociate to cope but Ive not been able to do it as well as I used to, hence the cutting.
2. Straight
2b. nope
2c.idk
3.no
3b. it depends on what
4. older sister 18 younger brother 8
5.yes but live together again
6. im very outgoing, im not shy, i get along with everyone
6b. some things yes
6c. idk
6d. outgoing and loud
7. yes
7b. on my ears just one
7c. NA-----
7d. just to get it
7e. it doesnt matter
8. to let out pain
9. brest legs wrist thighs shoulders everywhere
10. deep, horizontal and vertical ones
11. angry relieved remorse
12. i love it it makes me feel better like the blood leaving my body is my pain and anger leaving
13. yes
14. sometimes
15. nope i dont trust people and its taking me a lot to do this
16. yes im trying
17. trying
18 13
19. 3 years
20. yes nothing ever works
female, 17 (almost 18), NC
2. Sexual Orientation (you won't be judged, I promise)
Straight
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI?
Nope.
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control?
No
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
Yes.
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules?
It's pretty equal.
4. Any siblings? If so, how many?
One older brother.
5. Are you parents divorced?
No
6. How would you describe your personality?
Quiet, shy, laid-back, friendly
6b. Are you a perfectionist?
Defiantly
6c. Introvert/extrovert?
Introvert
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet?
Im defiantly shy, and Im usually quiet but I can be loud too. It depends on who Im with and what Im doing..
7. Any piercings/tattoos?
No
7b. Piercings- How many/where?
n/a
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind?
None
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?)
n/a
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them?
n/a
8. Why do you SI?
There are a lot of reasons. Usually its because I get so overwhelmed with emotions that I have panic attacks. Sometimes its a punishment thing.
9. Where?
Arms, sometimes thighs.
10. What form(s)?
cutting, scratching (w/ finger, or anything sharp), hitting, pinching
11. What do you feel when you do?
Most of the time. Usually I do it because I WANT to feel the pain. It helps bring me back, focus my attention, and calm my heart rate. There have been times where Ive dissociated, but its not often.
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do?
When Im doing it I like it because its relief. The hate comes after.
13. Are you ashamed of scars?
Yeah.
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV?
Sometimes, Im trying to reduce it though.
15. Do you like talking about your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers?
It all depends. The first person I ever talked to my problems about was a complete stranger over the internet (he was a counseler in another state, helping one of my friends). Its hard for me to open up to any one really, but I struggle with eye contact in person.
16. Do you want help?
Yes.
17. Are you seeking help?
Yes.
18 How old were you when you started?
Ive been pinching my skin for as long as I can remember. I did it even as a little girl. It later evolved into hitting and scratching, and then eventually cutting. I probably started the latter around 6th or 7th grade.
19. How long have you been doing SI?
About 6 or 7 years.
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions?
Yeah, but nothing (so far) has come close to providing relief like SI does.
21. How would you describe your relationship with your family?
My older brother and I usually dont get a long. Hes bossy and thinks (because hes twice my size) I should do whatever he tells me to. My dad and I butt heads all the time. My mom and I are close, but we have our moments. Im usually quiet at home and over looked a lot. I have to repeat myself a lot because my dad and brother usually arent listening.
22. Do you like how you look? Why/why not
No. I hate my weight
23. Job/Student?
Student.
24. On average, how much sunlight do you get a day?
It depends. A couple of hours usually.
25. Do you have other issues (ie. depression, self-esteem issues, illnesses etc.)
Depression, self-esteem, panic attacks, anxiety.
2. Sexual Orientation: Bisexual
2b. Does societies reaction to question 2 play into why you SI? : No
2c. Do you feel a lack of control in question 2, and feel this is a way to have something in your control? : No
3. Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? : yes
3b. Do you feel you make the rules or follow the rules? follow
4. Any siblings? If so, how many? yes one brother
5. Are you parents divorced? never married
6. How would you describe your personality? depressed
6b. Are you a perfectionist? half half
6c. Introvert/extrovert? ?
6d. Are you shy/outgoing? Loud/quiet? shy quiet
7. Any piercings/tattoos? ear peircings and belly
7b. Piercings- How many/where? ^
7c. Tattoos- Where/How many/What kind?
7d. Why did you get it/them? (If sentimental, did it help you get over pain or other emotions?) wanted to get them
7e. Do you feel proud when telling people about it/them? no
8. Why do you SI? life got shit
9. Where? any where i can hide it. prefer wrists tho.
10. What form(s)? cutting
11. What do you feel when you do? high
12. Do you like the feeling or do you hate yourself when you do? both
13. Are you ashamed of scars? no i dont care it is how i am feeling
14. Do you spend 3+ hours a day on the computer/Video games/TV? yes
15. Do you likeabout your problems in person/over the phone/online with friends/strangers? sometimes
16. Do you want help? am revicing help currently
17. Are you seeking help? yes
18 How old were you when you started? 12
19. How long have you been doing SI? 4 years
20. Have you tried other ways to cope with severe emotions? yes
-How would you describe your relationship with your family? close to my sisters, brother, and parents, but also jealous of them, and sometimes angry!
-Do you like how you look? NO Why/why not? overweight and ugly
-Job/Student? job
-On average, how much sunlight do you get a day? very little direct light, but work in office with lots of windows
-Do you have other issues (ie. depression, self-esteem issues, illnesses etc.) depresson, anxiety