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What Should I Do?

deleted_user
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Today I realised my boyfriend doesn't love me. He says he does, but it is clear he does not. I feel worthless and like I want to die. I moved from my Mom's house to my Dad's for him... and I am just realising now that he does not love me.
I tried calling my mom (wasn't home)... I tried calling my best friend (didn't answer)... so I went into my room and I was shaking I was so angry. I grabbed a switch-blade and held it to my arm. I held it so tightly there is actually a mark from it... but something inside of me just couldn't go any further. I may not feel loved - but I think if I cut, and my family found out I would be unloved AND disowned... a part of me doesn't care... but I do not want to disappoint my mom.
I was just wondering... what does it feel like when you cut? Does it hurt? Or does it really realease all the pain? What should I do?
To cut or not to cut? THAT is the question...
deleted_user
deleted_user
First of all, please don't harm yourself or kill yourself! You are loved very much. What makes you say the doesn't love you? Have you tried to call your dad? If you can't reach anyone call a hotline number!

Okay now your questions. I feel like I'm less stressed and more relaxed. It does hurt sometimes while doing it or afterwards. Please don't even consider the option!! It's not worth it.

Here is some questions to keep in mind:

Do you want to think about how you are going to hide your marks? Do you want scars to look at in the future and see the time when you were hurting? Do you want to be continusly asked questions by people when they see the marks? Is life really so hard to hurt yourself?

I love you and care for you!
Please don't do anything! I'm here.
~Ashley
deleted_user
deleted_user
hey.i really dont want you to harm yourself.i used to and now have stopped for about 8 months.It was one of the worse things i did as i now have scars so i dont swim (which i used to love) havent worn t shirts or nice dresses for over 3 yrs , and have to see them as reminders every morning.Its really not worth it....now every day is even a struggle not to do it as its soo addictive its hard to stop.My answer would definately be not to cut....it has ruined me in many ways.it makes me down and the more down i get the more i want to do it...its a downward spiral.
im am always here if you want to talk. I have said to many of my friends if there is one thing i want to do now it would only be to urge people to never get into self harm.take care x
HONESTYis
HONESTYis
Why do you think he doesn't love you if he says you do? Sometimes people try to complicate things that are quite simple. If he says he loves you TRUST him - he is your boyfriend after all.
To answer your questions:
it feels like pain.
Yes it hurts.
No it doesn't release all the pain.
& You shouldn't cut yourself because it would bring unnecessary problems into your life - kind of like the questions rabbit brought up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
A few of you asked... so... I don't think he loves me anymore, or at least not as much as he used to because when we started dating he was so nice, and would kiss & hug me and now he tells me shut up, calls me a bitch, and makes fun of me. Also, he barely EVER touches me (hugs, kisses... etc) and he NEVER holds my hand, or says he loved me anymore... or at least not as much. Today I was waiting for him to be done washing his car's windows so I could use the wondex on my brother's, and he was taking a while, so I though maybe I should help and so I started cleaning the interior (dash etc) and he came in and was like "Fuck, leave... I thought you were washing ur bros car.." Then later, my brother and my bf had to go to a hardware store and I my BROTHER asked when THEY were leaving and he was like "What the fuck difference is it to you, you aren't coming...!" He's justt so rude to me, we barely talk, and he's always ignoring me or degrading me... does that seem like love to you?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'd have to vote not to cut. The marks stay red a long time even if you don't go deep enough to scar. It scars and worries family members. Look for another way, if ya can.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dump him. You deserve better.
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