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Okay, so for the past few weeks I've wanted to cut but more recently the urge has gotten worse and more urgent to the point where even if I was able to cut (which I'm not due to not having anything to cut with) that I wouldn't trust myself because I think I wouldn't want to stop. I've told my boyfriend all of this and he's suggested that when I go to his for a few days this week (it's a long distance thing) that he 'supervises' me while I cut to make sure I don't over do it. At first I thought of this idea as totally out of the question, but as I've thought about it more and the urge has worsened I've started to think it isn't a bad idea. He's a self harmer as well and over the past couple of weeks he's seen me getting worse at a rapid pace and recognises that the only way I can cope at the moment would be to cut so he's offered to help me.

I was really just wondering what your thoughts were on this.

Please don't leave too negative a comment if you're going to. He's only trying to help.

Stace
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i think that i sounds like a sensible idea especialy if the erge is that bad. If he is there nothing bad can happen so if u really need to cut do it with the supervision.
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Hi it's really important that you do what makes you comfortable. It's really sweet that your boyfriend cares so much and he obviously loves you. A problem that I might see is that cut safely in front of him but you might cut yourself worse if he's not about. I hope you have a safe journey and look after each other.
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i personally wudnt be able 2 cut in front of my boyfriend or any1...but if the urge is so bad n u dnt think ull be able 2 stop n hes offering u help...then its better 2 be supervised than 2 do it alone!
take care xxxx
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i agree. hun we all give in to the urges at some point. and i am not saying that it is a good idea but if you feel you have to cut do it a way that is safeist for you hun. plz take care.
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no I honestly think that that is a relatively good idea. My ex said the same thing to me. He understood that there was really nothing that he could do to stop me. He supported me in getting well, but he also knew that sometimes you just have to do something and if he was thre to make sure I didnt really hurt myself, that was better than me holding off for so long then just freaking out. So I would see how things go, and good luck to you and him.
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i had a freind say that once, he realised that thats wot i needed. and i was set up ready and i couldnt do it i just broke down in front of him and cried. cutting was my thing. it was wot i did my persoanl stuf having him there was wrong. (well 2 me it was n e way) it might help u hun. knowing hes there for you if n e thing does happen. he sounds very supportive. he knows were ur cuming from and that the only thing thats gna help u is for u 2 cut n he wants 2 do his best n thats his way of saying am here for you. xxx
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