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So I told my mom.....

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I was on the phone with my mom today and I just suddenly had a NEED to tell her the truth. As I had already suspected, she knew. And I said to her, "Look, I know you already know this, but I have to tell you something. I'm a self injurer." She just plainly said, "Yeah, I know", then got all bitchy with me. She's like "You've been pulling this shit since middle school and to tell you the truth, I'm fucking sick of it." I didn't say anything for a minute and then I said, "look, you can feel any way you want to about it, but I am telling you this because I want you to know that (my therapist) knows the truth and I AM getting help." She didn't even care about the fact that I'm getting help for it!! She just wanted to talk about the last time I did it and lied to everyone about and pick and pick at me until I was in tears!! I knew that she wouldn't really care, but I was hoping for SOMETHING, like maybe a "well at least your getting help" or even "its about time you were honest", but I got NOTHING. Has anyone else shared with their parents that they are an SI and get a reaction like this?? Now I'm terrified to talk about it with anyone. I was going to tell my best guy friend about it today, but I stopped myself. On the one hand, I'm glad that I didn't tell him, but on the other hand I don't want him to believe the lies anymore. I don't know what to do!!! HELP!
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WOW, I've never had the strength to tell my parents. It seems like she reacted in a really bitchy way, totally wrong. I may not know you, but I envy your courage, even when someone knows about it its still a hard topic to talk about. I've been trying to gather up the stregnth to tell my mom too, but its too hard, i start crying just thinking about her reaction.

but one thing is for sure, friends are much more understanding than parents. so dont be afraid to tell ur best guy friend, because if he gets educated about it, he might be more help than your therapist
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im so sorry that you got that kind of reaction from your mom... i really envy your courage too! i don't know if i'll ever be able to tell my parents about it... sounds like you dealt with it in the maturist way possible and then ur mom kinda shouted you down when you were opening up about something SO hard to open up about.. i guess people who did will only ever know How hard it is to actually get to the stage you did. welldone for plucking up the courage.. i'm so sorry you got the reaction you did.. maybe she is just feeling hurt that you never told her before.. but come on, it's not as easy as people might think to just come out with it! welldone you, big hugs, hope she calms down and gives you the support you need and deserve. and i agree, if he's your best guy friend...tell him! it's really good to have someonein the flesh to talk to about it. xx
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Try not to let your mom discourage you from telling the people you care about, about this problem. It can take so long to get the courage to come clean about something like this wether the person already know or not.
I'm sorry your mom reacted like that, it was completely out of line and you should be congradulated on seeking help.
If you choose to tell your friend about this, I hope it goes a little smoother for you. At least you can take compfort in knowing we don't think any less of you.
Good luck..
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