I'm a guy, so this doesn't mean much, but I am married and I had cut myself probably hundreds of times before I met my wife. Your mom may mean well. Perhaps she is just trying to give you another reason not to cut yourself. Let me know if I can be of any help.

people have told me the same thing. i had a boyfriend for about a month and he saw the scars, knew about everything, and said it didnt matter. so maybe the scars arent so bad. and most guys dont wanna know about them anyway.

So I have several hundred scars on my arms legs and stomach--and mine are particularly bad because I keloid--so all of my trials and tribulations from the past 6 years are laid out like a map for everyone to see in big thick scar tissue. I'm telling you all of that to say this: once I finally dealt better with what I was going through and I embraced myself (and believe me it took time) and exuded some confidence people forgot about my scars--they see me and not that. Sometimes with guys it's harder--one guy I dated dumped me after he found out what I was going through but not everyone is like that and the same what you have supportive people in your life you will be able to have a supportive partner. I understand what your mother is saying: my mother is a fashion designer and she can't STAND my scars and tells me how unattractive I am/they are and that I'll have a hard time getting through life because they are an "instant statement". That's not how things have worked for me thus far. I've been casted in plays (despite what my arms look like), I'm writing a chapter of a book and when people comment on my photos they comment on how I look--not on my arm. Life doesn't always have to revolve around your skin. I must state that this entire thing is my experience and my opinion but I hope this helps you.
Good luck and I hope things go well for you.

I'm not now but I have been and I've dated a few guys who have been very supportive. If you're getting married that person should love you no matter what and look past your flaws. When you find the right person that person will be able to look past the scars and try and heal the emotional ones.

I dont think they bother anybody so long as the person is aware and understanding of the issue. My ex husband, who I was with for 7 years (married for one) didn't care about my scars, he said they were just illustrations of my life. A nice way of putting it I think.

i always thought that i'd never be able to find someone who would accept me for me, scars included. now im in a relatioship with someone who is supportive, hope that gives some hope.

My boyfriend of over 3 yrs cuts and he has some pretty harsh scars and such, and I couldn't care any less. He could gain 200lbs, go bald and lose and arm and I'd still love him.

Your scars won't keep anyone at bay except for those people who don't deserve to know you. Trust me...

I've also been told my scars are ugly, and crap like that. I don't have a problem making friends, and my best friend has been in my life since I was like 1 and 1/2 so if she had a problem with it I don't think she would stick with me through all of this.
The only problem I come across is people meeting me and instantly asking what happened, like they don't care who I am they want an introduction to my scar.
But for the people that try to say negetive things about my situation I just explaine to them it's something I was going through and each mark represents something I over came.

Thanks for your thoughts. I find them really encouraging.

my bf didn't care about the scars that i had, in fact he would even take care of the new cuts when he saw them to make sure they didn't get infected. it was awful having to be so up front about it with someone, but comforting, bc he saw me as more than just the sum of the words carved into my leg. fyi -- mederma helped me with some of the newer ones, if they bother you.... but whoever it is who will be special enough for you to let into your world will be special enough to see you and not just your scars.

Tell her that they'll allow someone caring and understanding to enter your life and prevent superficial people from getting too close. In other words, if someone doesn't want to go out with you because of them, they're not right for you anyway.

my bf of going on 7 months got me 2 stop cutting but he doesnt care bout my scars even when im bothered by them myself he loves me for me not what i have on my body