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My mother is the reason....

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They both screamed at me about how i should be thankful for how great my parents were and how much shit they have bought me over the years (never mind all the physical and emotional abuse) and i distinctly remember my mom saying " u think u have it so bad! When i was a teenager i would steal scissors from the kitchen and try to slit my wrists."

So that night i tried just that...i stole a pair of hair cutting scissors my mom had in the bathroom and cut my wrists....barely any blood came and no one ever noticed. Of course since then its gotten progressively worse....

Has anyone else had a similar experience like this
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well i have always heard " u should be so thankful for the childhood u got. We had it a lot worse" It just makes me so sick.
I dont think i have this with self harming... well noone ever talked about it, but i can relate to the thought and how got there.
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the thing that angers me about the "u should be thankful" part of the speech my parents always gave was the fact that they always told me how hard they worked to buy me things and how much they had to sacrifice to buy me things.....

i was never a child who asked for anything and even my parents would vouch for that....i really wish i would have at some point stood up and said "stop buying me stuff and just listen and be here for me....dont beat me or verbally degrade me....just love me like any parent should love their child"......
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I can empathize my mum would yell and me and degrate me and tell me I wast good enough and then say the same thing "your childhood wasnt that bad" meanwhile she has been married 7 times and most of her husbands were abusive and she would stand up for them. Add the fact that my dad didnt want me and left when i was 6. I started cutting at 13 when i just couldnt handle it anymore. My mum had called me worthless and so had everyone else at school. Dont let it get worse hun. If there is anyway you can stop TRY!! I have been cutting for 10 years. it isnt worth the pain!
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you know people say that but it dose not mean you have to be thankful i now what your going through peopple that dont know your past should becareful what they say i hate it also when people say you should be thankful cause they dont know what i been through ps im sorry your going through a hared time lots of hugs
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Oof! My mom was the same way: so emotionally abusive. I didn't know it at the time. She always went into these speeches about how great a mother she was. I became brainwashed to think that she was perfect and I was messed up. It resulted in self-hatred and mental illness for me. If you know your mom is emotionally abusive, you have to stand your ground. Stay on your side even if it cause some problems. Do not abandon yourself. Be aware that she is a sick person in need of help. Find friends, therapist, whoever to vent to. You need to keep your sanity. Just because they yelled at you doesn't mean they're right. I don't know if you are living withe these people, but you know that it won't' be forever. Some day you will get away. You will find others who are kind and friendly.

It sounds like these relatives are feeling unappreciated. I don't know the situation, but you might want to try to give them some appreciation when it's appropriate. Maybe then the mouths of the lions will be sealed shut!
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