Self-Injury Support Group
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My left forearm. Why am I such an idiot... you couldnt get a more clichd, a more suspicious, more obvious place to be marked. 13 new scars since I last saw my parents. There simply arent 13 new lies to tell them...
What do I say when they ask? just like with the Bulimia, they have no idea that I SI and there's no way they would be able to get their heads around it... they've always given me everything that they could in life, loved me so much more than I deserved and in return I've always played the happy daughter. I just feel so guilty that if they knew it would break their hearts, that after everything they've done for me I'm not even grateful enough to be happy - which is all they've ever wanted from me.
They believed me when I told me that my puppy scratched me, they were surprised when 2 months later I told them Id caught my watch in a bus door and it had cut me, they were shocked that Id 'over scratched a mosquito bite in my sleep'. . . and are still perplexed as to why scars from 'such little things' remain on my arm . . . but what now? What can I possibly say that would explain to them why my arm looks like a chopping board? Why (and this is thanks to the bulimia :) my hair is falling out, my teeth are receding, my lips are chapped, why my lisp has come back and I cant eat properly (thanks to swollen cheeks), why I get dizzy, why I faint, and why I find it so hard to get up in the mornings
I havent seen them in three months, they arrive in a week. Please help me.....
What do I say when they ask? just like with the Bulimia, they have no idea that I SI and there's no way they would be able to get their heads around it... they've always given me everything that they could in life, loved me so much more than I deserved and in return I've always played the happy daughter. I just feel so guilty that if they knew it would break their hearts, that after everything they've done for me I'm not even grateful enough to be happy - which is all they've ever wanted from me.
They believed me when I told me that my puppy scratched me, they were surprised when 2 months later I told them Id caught my watch in a bus door and it had cut me, they were shocked that Id 'over scratched a mosquito bite in my sleep'. . . and are still perplexed as to why scars from 'such little things' remain on my arm . . . but what now? What can I possibly say that would explain to them why my arm looks like a chopping board? Why (and this is thanks to the bulimia :) my hair is falling out, my teeth are receding, my lips are chapped, why my lisp has come back and I cant eat properly (thanks to swollen cheeks), why I get dizzy, why I faint, and why I find it so hard to get up in the mornings
I havent seen them in three months, they arrive in a week. Please help me.....
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Maybe this would be a good time to tell your parents. I know you probly don't want to, but think about the benefits of telling them. You could email them, call them, or talk to them about this. Right now would probly be a good time to tell them. I'm sure they would be willing to help you with what ever you need. Stay Strong! Keep me updated about what goes on.
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aw, sweeite, I'm so sorry, you sound like you're struggling a lot but I agree with rabitt, now might be the time to tell them the truth... after all you said they've been very good parents, yes, they might be disappointed for a while, but they'll still love you and they won't think any less of you because your hurting *hugs*
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Thats just it, they would think less of me. They wouldnt be able to help it... and im just worried because at the moment they're so proud of me (im the 'successfull' one - getting a degree, good at sports, stable bf, nice friends e.t.c) you can literally see it brimming in their eyes. its alot pressure on me to live up to, but at the same time i dont want them to have to be ashamed every time they look at me either. Ive heard that some people on here use make-up on scars, can that ever really work effectivly?
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it has worked for me before, sweetie don't you think it'll be worse to have to explain it all to them if you wind up in the hospital? just think about it
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i know it's hard, but remember that as your parents, they love you no matter what. yes, they might be hurt by the truth (my mum was so upset to find out that i cut), but they'll want to help you. like you say, they only want you to be happy. you don't have to live up to being the 'perfect daughter', they'll still love you
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
